Friday, March 17, 2017

How Do I Handle It?

So, this arrived in my mailbox yesterday...

"I met this guy a couple years ago at the day spa while we were lounging next to the jacuzzi. We got to talking and hit it off and we established a friendship. I invited him over to hang out and watch a movie on Friday. I noticed a rip in his jeans when he sat down. No big deal, right? I mean lots people walk around with that style. He sat on the couch and the head of his dick was plainly visible. I went to say something and then thought better of it and kept quiet.

During the movie I noticed him kind of mindlessly running a finger around the head of his dick. A while later, I noticed he had an obvious hard-on because his cock was protruding a whole lot more and it was a whole bunch thicker. Then my own decided to spring up and snaked down my pant leg, and I was like I couldn't keep my hands off it.

By the time the movie ended he was running his hand along the entire length of his exposed dick and he looked over at me and smiled. Down went our pants and we spent an hour facing one another watching each other stroking our boners until we came.

When he was leaving he said we should get together for some mutual stroking again. (His exact words) I'm certainly game, but here's the thing. I so wanted to reach over and grab his cock and not just out of curiosity, either. I've never had that inclination before. I'm not sure what he would do if I did grab his dick.

So, two questions. Does this mean I'm not really straight like I thought? If we do this, how do I handle it?"



Well, now. First things first. You aren't the only straight man who has jacked off with a buddy. You sure as hell won't be the last. The fact that you two enjoyed yourselves has nothing whatsoever to do with being straight or gay or any other label. We are human. Humans are sexual beings. Not heterosexual. Not homosexual. Not bisexual. We're just...sexual.

How should you handle it? Handle it the way you would your own cock. Stroke it and tease it the way you do when you're lying in bed at night and jacking off, or kicked back on the sofa stroking away.

Oh! You meant, what should you do? Should you touch his cock or not? Absolutely - tentatively reach over. If it's something he's not into, he'll let you know. If he's not, don't get upset - just go back to playing with yourself.
Whether it stays strictly buddy jack off, or it becomes mutual jack off, enjoy yourselves.

Shrug off the label bullshit.
Any advice, folks?


AOM said...

Amen! I was thinking the same thing this morning. I never fit the sexual labels - I agree that we are just sexual beings - I think that is our natural state - sexuality is a spectrum not an either or - this or that. Thanks for your very thoughtful post. I wish you a glorious weekend, bro. Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM

Stanley Ulbrych said...

your advice was perfect....or shall I say "right on the.....?

mistress maddie said...

Everyone has a preference, and just because your stroking off with another guy and or jacking each others dicks, doesn't make you gay. Just because I love womens tits doesn't make me straight.

Patrick said...

I think you've said it all! Have a great weekend! Big wind and rain storms here!

SickoRicko said...

Nothing more I can add to what you already suggested. Have a great weekend!

Jean WM said...

He apparently wanted to get a reading on your first encounter. Possibly he has done this before, maybe even many times. Go at the speed you are comfortable. One of the nice things about being an adult, it's your decision.

My question, they met 2 years ago and this just happened recently? Or this was all two years ago? So maybe it wasn't their first encounter?

To all the Patricks, Happy St. Patricks Day.

T said...

The wanking bit; do whatever you want. Ask first would be ideal dont just reach across and grab it. You could get a black eye. If unsure how to even bring it up just bring it up while your pulling your own if he wants to try out yours. If a no then just keep going.

Now the other bit; sex is sex. It is not love. It is something you do with another person. That is all it is. Its an action. Sex is not love and vice versa. Until you got a dick deep in your ass or yours is in another guy's and you see him in a love/emotional capacity and you dont see yourself in a relationship ever again with a woman than your gay. Otherwise your just having a bit of sexual exporation.

Dont get sex confused with love. One is an activity and the other is an emotion.

Fit Studs said...

I believe many, & I repeat, MANY men...
Those "straight" men we & them believe they are, really aren't.

And it's true. Gotta be. Because they had sex & they like doing with with the gays. But the real question is, can they & do they fall in love with men... Or women only. Either way, it depends from the person.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - I took it to mean this was a recent event and the first time since they had met 2 years prior. But, I love your thoughts on the subject. It would appear his friend has done this before...and this guy needs to move at his own speed. Hugs!!

whkattk said...

@ T - Yep. Too many people confuse sex with love and intimacy. Sex can be an expression of all those things, of course. But, when guys get together like that it is just sex - entertainment.