Wednesday, March 7, 2018

More Men?

I found the question of yesterday's post to be rather ironically timely. It made me think about Call Me By Your Name. If you haven't seen this, do so. It's a beautiful film about first love - we've all been there, regardless of our sexual orientation. Timothee Chalamet deserved that nomination if for nothing other than the final scene. I only wondered why Armie Hammer didn't get an Oscar nod, too.


The film depicts what can develop, and hurt, if one party expects it will go on indefinitely, or is confused because the other presents to the public-at-large as straight.

Bisexuality, or Flexuality, is still misunderstood by many. But as more and more films like this hit the mainstream the more accepted it will be. 





 I've known a lot of self-identifying straight guys who enjoy engaging in sex with men, because as some comments pointed out yesterday, it's just another enjoyable shared activity.
Maybe, if people would cease being shocked by it, more men would admit they'd enjoy it if given a safe environment like the guy from yesterday.
Do you think more men would venture into m-m activity?


mistress maddie said...

As a gay guy, I have had several affairs with straight guys over the years. The one common thing I heard when I asked them about their sexual life was, sex is sex, and also if they are stepping out behind there wife's back, they want another guy... mostly in fear a female will become attached, and a guy knows what a guy likes.

I have to add also, there is just something about a gay/straight mix. There is a nice, sexy, and close bond and I can't explain why.

Xersex said...

Flexuality: great word!!!

Patrick said...

It is an interesting question. Two of the guys that I had sex with as a teenager later in life married. Lovely Autumn morning here! I have my six-monthly physical today! So have scheduled a post. Trust you get some warmer days soon.

A French Patrick said...

The film is named "Call Me By Your Name", but the young Franco-American has to be called by his name, Timothee Chalamet, (and not Chalumet)
Me too, the few movies I was hoping to win didn’t.

One actor who hoped to receive an Oscar, doubtless disappointed, declared "That doesn't matter, I am not an actor of lottery!"

What is sure, it is that I would like to know their criteria of choice which I suspect of being oddball and random, knowing that all these actors and/or directors have never had an Oscar: Alfred Hitchcock, Sergio Leone, George Lucas, Ridley Scott, Quentin Tarantino, Jean Renoir, Terence Malik, Michael Mann, David Lynch, Stanley Kubrick, David Fincher, Brian de Palma, Tim Burton, Charlie Chaplin, James Dean, Johnny Depp, Harrison Ford, Bill Murray, Samuel L. Jackson, John Malkovich, Joaquin Phoenix, Tom Cruise, John Travolta, Edward Norton, Ian McKellen, Ralph Fiennes, Steve McQueen, Matt Damon, Ed Harris, Gary Oldman, Marilyn Monroe, Michelle Pfeiffer, Greta Garbo, Glenn Close. , etc, etc...

Love, hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

Jean WM said...

It’s hard to know, even if the atmosphere allows people can be their own worst judges and critics. We are hardest on ourselves.
hugs and bisous.

whkattk said...

@ MFP - oops! Yep I spelled his name wrong. Thank you. I shall have to fix that. You may now remove Gary Oldman from that list.... :-)

that one guy said...

I'm a little late to this one - family obligations - but I'm going to write anyway.

Obviously the answer is yes. If we can use the Kinsey scale of 1 to 6, where 1 means "so straight that I would turn down a threesome if another man was involved" and 6 means "so gay that I would turn down a threesome if a woman was involved," then there are probably a LOT of 2's and 3's out there who are either definitely interested, or would at least be open to trying it, if social mores weren't so much against it.

As we all know, the connection between physical and emotional attraction varies widely between men. There are many men out there who just want to stick their cock into something, no human connection needed --- straight ones where the "something" has to be female, gay ones where the "something" has to be male, in-between ones where the "something" can be either. There are others who are much the opposite --- I even knew a straight guy in college who said he was unable to get an erection unless he was in love.

There are also a lot of guys who would fall between those extremes: from frankly bisexual, to "I would need to be really close friends with them," to "it's like eating --- a lunch date with my girlfriend is best, but there's no reason to turn down a quick sandwich with a bud." (Just imagine if there was a social taboo around eating with members of the same sex!)

(A link to the Kinsey Scale test, if anyone's interested: )

SickoRicko said...

Flexuality - love it!

whkattk said...

@ that one guy - Thanks for the link to the Kinsey Scale. I've often used it as an example to get people to understand how our human sexuality works. I love that one reply: "it's like eating --- a lunch date with my girlfriend is best, but there's no reason to turn down a quick sandwich with a bud."

Austin Acuff said...

I’m glad you brought this to light. I’ve often wondered about this myself. I’ve had quick “sessions” (aka jacking off with a married guy) from the gym to in the car. Honestly, I don’t even think of it as having to label someone as gay, straight or bi. I just think it’s human nature; perhaps more so in some than others. Perhaps, some would like to, but fear being labeled gay. Ah, the labeling of being gay. Getting off with another guy doesn’t really make you gay; it makes you human. I think with some “straight” guys it might even justify the fact that they jerk off; “well, this other married/straight guy is doing it, too, so that means I’m not gay.” If that makes any sense. Also, I just wonder how many men can’t help but think, “I wonder how my dick compares to that dudes.” It’s our “manhood” after all that we’re talking about here. I remember as a kid that guys would say that if you “play with yourself” that you are automatically gay. No, that’s just a human nature thing that humans do. Doing it is one thing; admitting it is another. I also tend to think that more “circle jerk” than they would admit. Lastly, I often think about this…gay/straight/bi….we’re all men, we know the satisfaction of “bustin’ a nut.” Maybe watchin’ porn with another dude provides that “companionship” that comes with full on sex, but when it’s all said and done, “Man, I got off, it felt great and I didn’t have to seduce anyone, buy someone a dinner/drink, or even have to date someone.” Even for married men, let’s face it, sometimes they just wanna get off without much hassle.