Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Comfort and Love

"Is it necessarily "gay" to want human contact - to want to be soothed and comforted and no matter the gender of the person providing it?
My best friend and I often embrace each other. Sometimes we will even put our arms around each other and just stay that way. Such was the case this past weekend when a group of people passed by and made the most insulting remarks. How do people behave like that? What do others do in that situation?"

I believe it is the times we are living in. Sad that our society has taken steps backward, but we can see where that stem sprouts. Extremists of the right wing have been given permission from the hate speech and bigotry coming from some who are considered leaders in our country. They're spoiling for the fight- they savor negative reaction.

Those of us who prefer to believe that we are all human and desire empathy, comfort, and love must continue to live as if we are on the right side of history. So, hug, embrace, hold hands, kiss, or otherwise show your caring and compassion to everyone and anyone with whom you connect. It's human, it's normal.

Be the person you are and don't let others bully you, or otherwise make you feel inferior for they way you engage your friends.

 The more the rest of us continue to express our care, the less effect the others will have on us and on our society at large.



Xersex said...

I'm so sweet and you seem to have enjoyed my last post

when I go to my sex club, I always try also to find some contact and kisses and hugs! So I share with you the importance of such contacts!

SickoRicko said...

You said it very well.

mistress maddie said...

Touching is one of the most important forms of contacts.

Patrick said...

Wonderful post as ever! Trust you have recovered from the conference. There are many and different ways of expressing "friendship"! These should be accepted as normal and natural. I think it great to see two men walking along holding hands, or kissing each other when they part to go their separate ways. "A kiss is but a kiss" it means whatever the two mean it to mean.

A French Patrick said...

Yes, that is so very true! Nevertheless there is a photo that there is not. Therefore this photo is missing here.

You've said "So, hug, embrace, hold hands, kiss, or otherwise show your caring and compassion to everyone and anyone with whom you connect."
It's incredible but I have to notice that the fact is that you have not mentioned the bisous!

I quote the "New York Post": "French President Emmanuel Macron started off his three-day US visit Monday by greeting President Trump French-style — with kisses on the cheeks. As they met at the White house, Trump extended his hand, but Macron put his left hand behind the president’s neck and pulled him close for the smooches."

The bisous are these French-style kisses on the cheeks, that you can see on the photo @:

Love, hug, embrace, hold hands, kiss AND BISOUS, my darlings Jean and Pat.

JiEL said...

I think all the ways we do some affectionate gestures are the result of our education and our culture.

See in Russia, men kiss often.
In France they cheek kiss and to have been there, the numbers of kisses vary in numbers left right depending on the region of France you are.
Here in Province of Québec, we cuddle easily without any problem, straights do it in a very manly way. Best friends here often hug themselves as a sign of brotherhood and to show our feelings.

Nothing «gay» is told forward by anyone here.

The more «religious» believes are in your education, the less you're enable to express freely your affection to another man because it's going to look bad to others.
To me it's the same than the old telling that men never cries.

Men are also sensitive beings and showing it isn't bad.

Tex said...

No,it's not "gay" to want physical contact from another human. The importance of human touch can hardly be overstated. Just do a quick web search and you'll find a lot of info about the mental and physical benefits of hugging, holding hands, etc. People, regardless of gender, should be able to hug, put their arms around each other or even hold hands in public without anyone saying anything about it.

Jean WM said...

Great, I’d rather see folks kissing than fighting anyday. But.... and I’m not sure the threshold you pass, when it’s "get a room" time. We’ve all been there and rolled our eyes. Hey French Patrick, speaking of "eye rolls" we have a lot kissing going on right now between Trump and Macron!! Hugs and bisous.

Gabriel said...

I totally agree with you that we all should show our love and affection to our family and friends in the manner we choose. I am a hugger and love to hug my friends and family. I have even been known to give a kiss on the cheek. Stop the presses!!! LOL!

If someone reads something wrong into showing love to someone, then it is their issue. Keep on hugging and kissing and celebrating one another.

I am sending you all a big hug and kiss! Let people gossip! LOL!

T said...

Stop worrying about what other people think. That is their problem not yours. Their ignorance is not your problem.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - You're right! We've all seen those couples who should just either get a room or go home - or at least hide in some bushes somewhere. LOL!

whkattk said...

@ MFP - Yes, mon cheri, your Macron pulled a Trump on Trump. And I am glad for it. The witless Orange One is bested 99% of the time and he's so totally unaware of it. Love, hugs, and bisous!

that one guy said...

Don't be discouraged.

One thing I've noticed is that, along with the bigots who seem to gain a sense of empowerment from our current president, there is also an increased acknowledgement of the importance of kind, compassionate behavior. Americans touch each other less than any other Western culture (maybe any culture, period). We'd be better off if we touched more.

It might be worthwhile to spend some time thinking of good (witty, non-confrontational) comebacks to those kinds of comments so that when it happens again you're not at a loss for words. Something like "I'm not gay, I'm just not afraid of my friends" or "sorry if other people having friends bothers you." Just a thought...

whkattk said...

@ that one guy - "I'm not gay, I'm just not afraid of my friends" - LOVE that response.

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