Late Start

I got a very late start today. Slept in. 😳

Literally woke with the sun streaming in.

It's been a couple of rough nights with the cramping muscles.😲

Then, got caught up in doing chores.

Hope everyone has a nice, restful weekend.

Maybe take a few hours to read a good book.

Improve Those Boners

"I have a question about erections. Lately, mine haven't been as hard as they used to be. I'm only in my late 40's. Is this something to worry about? Anything I can do to improve the rigidity?"

There are so many reasons the flagpole doesn't rise up to our expectations, it's difficult to surmise any particular cause. Thought it's not an uncommon complaint coming from men your age. Yes, age has something to do with it because Testosterone (T) levels peak at age 18-20, and begin declining. It's such a gradual drop that we typically don't notice. For instance, from age 30 levels expect to drop by 1% each year.

So, first on your list is to get your T-levels checked. That should be an easy enough task with a trip to your doctor. You don't even necessarily have to go into detail about flagging boners. A simple, "I get tired around midday," should work. Though, as I've said before, men should never be embarrassed to discuss sexual functioning with a physician.

He knows all about how your cock should work.

According to Healthline, warning signs of low T are:

• reduced sexual desire, or low libido
• fewer spontaneous erections
• impotence
• erectile dysfunction (ED)
• infertility
• changes in sleep patterns
• difficulty concentrating
• lack of motivation
• reduced muscle bulk and strength
• decreased bone density
• large breasts in men
• depression
• fatigue

You might also start a regimen of Kegel exercises. The exercises are simple to do, and you don't even need a boner so you can do them so nobody would be the wiser. You flex and hold for a few second, then release. Do 10 reps, spaced throughout the day.

If your T levels report as normal, Urologists have found that vibration and soundwave therapies are helping men with ED by stimulating blood flow which, discounting major trauma, is the major cause of ED.

It's painless - except for the bills. You might consider a home-remedy imitation. Get a good vibrator and instead of using it on the cock (as you'll no doubt be tempted to)

use it along the Perineum for several minutes each day. It should help improve those boners.

Fair Game?

"So i found out my younger irish twin brother has been sneeking pics of me in the shower when strange people started sending me IMs It wouldn't be so bad but i do like to jerk off in there and im sure some snaps have been of that based on someof the messages i get like id b happy to help u with that Im not ashamed but some of the messages are creepy What can I do to stop it all"

Okay, by Irish Twin you mean you were born in the same year? I think that's what the term means.

Your brother may think it's funny. You may be flattered by the attention - to a certain degree, anyway, I'm guessing - or you would've tried to put a stop to it immediately. I get that you aren't ashamed of your body, of being naked, of the fact you masturbate. That's good. All of that's good.

But....

Depending on your ages, there could be problems. Yes, some states have changed the laws and no longer charge teens with child pornography in cases like this. However, you have to look at the bigger, long-range picture (no pun intended) here. Photos your brother sends out to friends, that they in turn send out and post all over the internet, are there forever.

What happens when you apply for a position somewhere and, in the process of the company Human Resources Department doing their search on you, your nude, shower stroking photos pop up? And, yes, companies do internet searches these days on prospective employees.

Everyone knows (or should) you can't go anywhere, anymore, without being on camera. With the proliferation of improved cell phones' cameras, even locker rooms and restrooms seem to be fair game.

You're going to have to take your brother aside and have a talk. He needs to stop and stop now before he ruins both your futures. If you find proof of continued infractions, you need to threaten to go to your parents or report him to a school counselor. Or, threaten to return the favor (please don't follow through on that threat). He needs to understand the serious consequences of his actions.

Any thoughts, Readers?

Sexual Recession

In the midst of Flower Power of the 60s and 70s, sex was open and free and frequent with many different partners. Today there's a sexual recession going on. At least according to multiple studies. Not just in the U.S., either. Countries like Sweden, who have prided themselves on their openness regarding sex as a natural, normal, healthy part of life, recently launched their first study in 20 years. Wow. What is going on?

As usual, there are the typical "it's because of easy access to porn" detractors - those who blame everything on internet pornography. But, studies have found that the internet in general has played a part in the decline - phones, tablets, social media. Even hook-up sites have reported a decline (evidently, Match does a continual study) in reported sex.

It's a very complicated issue. There are more things going on than any sociologist or psychologist can easily point a finger at. One very interesting finding is the shift away from sexual relationships appears "to be accelerating amid the national reckoning with sexual assault and harassment, and a concomitant shifting of boundaries. According to a November 2017 Economist/YouGov poll, 17 percent of Americans ages 18 to 29 now believe that a man inviting a woman out for a drink “always” or “usually” constitutes sexual harassment. (Among older groups, much smaller percentages believe this.)" [From a lengthy article by Kate Julian in The Atlantic.]

The fervency of the #metoo movement was bound to have consequences. Not that we shouldn't have the conversation - we should, and a very in-depth one. But, we also have to bear in mind that humans are sexual beings. We may not be partnering up as much, but we're satisfying the urges that nature has embedded in us. That, too, is recognized as people have become more accepting of masturbation in general. Twenty years ago we were still tittering over masturbation. Now, it's an acceptable subject on prime-time television.

As one (single) friend put it during conversation about the situation, "It's a lot less messy to just go home and jerk off.... And, in many ways, more satisfying, too."

He also admitted he had a small circle of friends who occasionally get together.

What's your take on #metoo and the "sex recession?"