Some very good, very thoughtful, very studied answers from everyone. You all are the best!
I can understand how losing the ability would eventually lead to loss of desire. Once the period of frustration had waned.
The newness of a relationship is a prime example, I think. At the beginning the lust and horniness is tantamount. We cannot wait to get somewhere and rip the clothes off.
Yet, over time, the lust fades and the love remains.
Does that mean desire is gone as well? Probably not, since so many men complain about the lack of sex in their marriages.
But, lose the ability to perform and we men go to extraordinary lengths to regain it.
Pills, lotions, pumps, cock rings, implants...an endless parade of hope linked to the desire to experience the pleasure once again.
Medical issues can result in the loss of ability, and surgeons have studied and studied looking for ways to resolve the problem. Women have experienced the loss of desire as they age. Drug companies have looked for compounds to help them regain it. Yet, as two Faithful Readers pointed out, cuddling and non-sexual intimacy can make up for the loss of ability when we truly care for another person.
Have a lovely weekend, everyone. If you still have the ability, you most likely still have the desire. So, enjoy yourselves.