Two things we need to unlearn from our younger days when we feared being discovered, and to relieve those incessant boners
furtively and furiously jacked off, our hand a blur.
1. Loosen up on that death grip.
There was no one to tell us that what we were doing was natural, that it would prepare us for future relationships. No one to let us know we needed to slow down, lighten the grip and allow our hands to glide along the shaft, fully from base to tip.
No one to give us something to use as lube so we'd experience sensations similar to those we'd have when we dipped our dicks for the very first time. No explanations of how wonderful it all would be if we learned to slow down and take our time.
2. It's okay to express your pleasure.
During our early sexual awakening we kept tight-lipped and silent.
Which, nine times out of ten, lead us to remain silent with our partners.
We need to learn to let go, to express our pleasure verbally; to let that partner know what feels especially good, what we'd like them to do in the moment, what we'd like more of.
Are you silent?
Or do you allow yourself to verbalize your pleasure when alone?
Or tell a partner what feels good?