Thursday, May 12, 2016

Loosen the Grip & Express Yourself

Two things we need to unlearn from our younger days when we feared being discovered, and to relieve those incessant boners

furtively and furiously jacked off, our hand a blur.
1. Loosen up on that death grip.

There was no one to tell us that what we were doing was natural, that it would prepare us for future relationships. No one to let us know we needed to slow down, lighten the grip and allow our hands to glide along the shaft, fully from base to tip.
No one to give us something to use as lube so we'd experience sensations similar to those we'd have when we dipped our dicks for the very first time. No explanations of how wonderful it all would be if we learned to slow down and take our time.


2. It's okay to express your pleasure.


During our early sexual awakening we kept tight-lipped and silent.
Which, nine times out of ten, lead us to remain silent with our partners.

We need to learn to let go, to express our pleasure verbally; to let that partner know what feels especially good, what we'd like them to do in the moment, what we'd like more of.


Are you silent?
Or do you allow yourself to verbalize your pleasure when alone?
Or tell a partner what feels good?


AOM said...

Excellent advice that everyone should have. Thanks for promoting healthy attitudes. Wishing you a glorious jizztastic day! Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM

A French Patrick said...

It is so true! If only we could go back in time...
Now it's my turn to have a question for you: if I express my pleasure when I visit your blog by WRITING it to you, do you consider that I verbalize it or that I am silent?
Anyway, I wish you a wondrous day, mon chéri, with lots of bisous to share with Jean.

Xersex said...

I'm quite silent when I cum, but I love to make feel my lover in heaven!


I've always been rather vocal both alone and with others! Certainly with others! Great post! Hot guys! Wonderful advice! Thanks!

Jean WM said...

As with everything when you are young, orgasms are cheaper by the dozen. You wake up one day and realize you are actually happy with slowing down and really enjoying the one you're going to have. Use it or lose it, for sure.

Anonymous said...

I actually prefer dry to lube. I actually didn't get Vaseline jokes until college, when I caught a roommate in the act.

We started, first jerking in each other's presence, then jerking each other over time. In time, I tried his lube once. Didn't like it, concluded lube was for cut guys. Still used it on him, though.

SickoRicko said...

I'm a mix of both.

whkattk said...

@ MFP - Mon mai, I consider that verbalizing...and I am grateful for it.

whkattk said...

@ Anon - I think all of us begin a result, many of us prefer it to using lube. I break mine out once in a while, but my pre-cum flows pretty generously.

Anonymous said...

I talk dirt