Enjoy Them Together

Money and sex are the greatest cause of arguments leading to divorce/separation. Clearly, we need more communication with both.

Sex toys. Billions of dollars spent each year. So, why do we hide them? If we find something pleasurable we should be able to tell a partner. Like the man in yesterday's post, there is no reason to get rid of them, no reason to hide them.

If something enhances the experience for us, why shouldn't it be used?

Like an email I received from a guy a few months ago:

"I forgot to stash my Fleshlight after cleaning it. My brother-in-law comes out of the bathroom and asked if his sister knew about it. I told him that she did and had no issues with me having it or using it and went on to tell him that sometimes she uses it on me. Sometimes we just use toys together just to pleasure ourselves. He was amazed. ... Is it unusual for couples to have toys like this?"

Sadly, my answer was, "Yes." He found she liked using a vibrator, so he bought her one and sometimes uses it on her. The fact that neither one of them felt threatened by an inanimate object puts them way ahead of the game.

As Jessica Wildfire explains in her article "Of Shame and Sex Toys," 'There's never any shame in pleasuring your partner. No matter how you get there. If your partner loves you, they won't judge.'

It's really no different than saying you enjoy oral sex. 

So, don't hide the toys. Use them.

Enjoy them.

Enjoy them together.