Friday, October 16, 2015

So Much Unsaid

I know there are a good many women who follow, and I am so very grateful for Jean who contributes with comments and emails. I also know there are a good many Straight dudes who follow and I wish they would comment (even anonymously) or send emails. It helps to further the conversations. It really does.
Of course, that is not to take away from all the gay guys who read and leave comments. Be assured I am grateful for you and love you all, too!
Faithful Readers, Your French Patrick and Jean, both raised some very interesting things. Jean comments that we men are much more complicated than we let on. Yes, that's an understatement. Not only do we hide it from the opposite sex, we hide it from one another. We guys are notoriously closed-off for the most part. So then God forbid, if we can't share information with our buddies, we should even think of sharing it with our sons. Even though there seems to be a myriad of things that can affect their health, not to mention a healthy sex life.
Then, Your French Patrick brings the notion that if a son is gay, what could a straight father teach him about, say...anal sex.
Well, first off, straight men know about anal sex - some engage in the activity with their spouses. My first wife loved anal sex and would ask me for it. I accommodated her, of course - what guy turns down sex when his wife is actually in the mood (that's meant as facetious; I know it happens often!). 

On the receiving end - there's a growing acknowledgement that anal penetration feels damn good as word continues to spread that the prostate is the Male G Spot. And, yes, it is.
For straight dudes who have discovered this - and have been brave enough to share it with their partners - the activity is known as "pegging." The use of a strap on dildo enables their wives and girlfriends to help their men achieve terrific orgasms this way.
But, a father who can't bring himself to even discuss boners or jacking off with a son,
certainly isn't going to instruct him on the pleasures of oral enjoyment or anal penetration - as either a giver or receiver. 
And, that's sad, too. We leave so much untouched that needs to be talked about.





Xersex said...

I'm sure an exception, but I didn't need of my dad's teaching to get sexual subjects! Am I the only one?

A French Patrick said...

Well, not exactly what I waited for, but better than nothing. When I'll have more free time, I'll send you an extended study about the problem, and you'll do what you want with it.
I wish you a wondrous weekend, mon chéri, with a lot of bisous.


Yes! It's difficult growing up without someone to explain what is happening. As my father died when I was 10 years old and, by then, my brother was married and moved out of the home, I did not know how to cope with these things: spontaneous erections; wet dreams; aching nuts; my first real jack off (cum went everywhere); feeing more interested other boys than in girls! One of the teachers at school gave me a book to read, but I did not really understand it! Then at boarding school the priest-in-charge told us "Only evil men masturbate"! But it felt soooooo good, why was it EVIL? I really hope that boys and youths are better prepared these days! Have a great weekend! Hugs, Patrick :-) Yes! Smile!

Jean WM said...

I just had to repeat a French Patrick's joke that was so funny: An Egyptian who engraves hieroglyphs asks his colleague "I would not want to make a spelling mistake. "Virile", is that spelled with one or two balls?"

So where else are you going to learn great stuff from all over? Do the international folks have different sex ed experiences? Women on the whole are better informed - if we want birth control we have to go see a doctor, no choice.

Men never want to appear ignorant, ever, and certainly not to each other, so where can they go? This is the place.

A French Patrick said...

@ Jean WM
Thanks for the compliment. I would have said that the good spelling is two balls, then I remembered that the Egyptians always showed the human beings of profile.
Best regards.

Anonymous said...

Straight guy here commenting: I would have appreciated some direction and 'the talk' at least from my dad. Was made to believe that masturbation and sex in general is from the devil and I needed to figure things out for myself. At age 30 I'm only now getting into the swing of enjoying my own dick and sex in general without fear that it's something bad. So some direction would have helped me to enjoy my dick and my life just that little bit more.

And I enjoy jacking off with my buddies whenever I get the chance! It's something all men should experience!

Thanks for the great blog!!

whkattk said...

@ Jason - Thank you so much for commenting! It's so rare that any of the straight guys do so. This blog is for everyone, though I do understand how one might think otherwise at first glance. I hope you'll continue to speak out.

whkattk said...

@ MFP - Mon ami...I think that would be great, actually. Someone with more information than I have would do a much better job!