Regardless of who we "couple" with, as an sex therapist acquaintance of mine has said, "We are all responsible for our own sexual pleasure, and ultimately our own orgasms." We must never be too timid to ask our partners for something that gives us sexual pleasure - so long as both parties agree, and the doing of it, nor the outcome, will cause physical or mental harm.
We must never be too timid to pleasure ourselves even with a partner present.
That being said, we are also responsible for our own sexual well-being, and we must never be too timid to give ourselves pleasure.
Sexual tension builds. And, for men, the balls begin to feel very heavy and ache.
The pre-cum starts to flow.
The BOEs will bloom harder than normal.
Without release, we become moody and - as I pointed out to the wife who I wrote about yesterday - we get surly and disagreeable. She needed to know that at the very least her husband needs to be able to jack off to relieve the pressure.
If you are partnered, how often do you take place pleasure into your own hands?