From the Mail Bag:
"I have a rather unique situation. Due to a lack of dorm rooms on campus I agreed to room with a guy. It’s a co-ed dorm but that usually means on the same floors not the same rooms. The RA gave us her blessing. Anyway, it’s been pretty good. We get along and there’s no interest beyond friends (he’s gay).
It’s coming to the end of the year and he’s been hinting around that he would like to room together next year. I promised him an answer when Easter break is over. That he sleeps naked doesn’t bother me. Neither do his morning erections I know he has no control over those. But he jerks off almost every night. He tries to be unobtrusive, the lights are off and he strokes under the covers. But I still know he’s doing it because of the rustling of the sheet and his moaning. He thinks he’s being quiet when he cums but he isn’t really. Then the fragrance of cum permeates the small room.
How do I tell him I’d love to be roomies again but he’s got to curtail the masturbation?"
Well, I’ve been in the same situation
– with guys, though, and told them there’s no need to hide it. Good
lord! we all masturbate. Don’t worry about me. Just go for it when the mood strikes.
You, on the other hand, don’t want to
watch or listen to his self-ministrations. Yet, it’s not fair to tell him he can’t.
Or that he has to limit it to the bathroom. He lives there (it’s his living room/bedroom, too)
and has just as much right to feel comfortable.
You either tell him he can’t whack off
in the room anymore,
or you tell him you won’t room with him in future years. Either way you look
like the bad guy when he’s at least been making an effort to shelter you.
Readers, any suggestions?
8 comments:
How about some arrangement where he gets some private time in the room alone, in exchange for not masterbating when she is there?
She should just be upfront and tell him that she realizes men masturbate often, but that she's not comfortable with it, and decline to room with him next year.
Perhaps we can do it in another room. No one like to hear any type of noise when their trying to sleep.
Have a great weekend Pat. And A Happy Easter!
Your reader should stop playing games and beating around the bush and give a real answer to his own question. I think that his roommate will certainly curtail the masturbation if they have sexual intercourses together.
I wish you nice Easter time and an excellent weekend, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I think, the better solution is talk with him, tell him is nice to have a room mate like him; but if he masturbate in the bedroom, take a chance to consider made in another area. I know is his right to masturbate where he want, but you have also the right to not ear him jerkoff and smell the cum in that little space. All is about to put rules, speak about it. Also if he a really nice guy with you and you with him, speak about it. Of course, if you want to jerkoff with , that is a middle option.
She should be open with him and tell him that it bothers her that he masterbates (although he is discreet about it). She has a right to tell him that influences her decision to be his roommate next year. Then he can decide if there is some compromise. He has a right to jack off as much as he wants in his room. That is the give and take of roommate situations.
Depending on the physical setup, if the bathroom is not a private one, he could be cited for lewd behavior if he jerks off in the bathroom.
Maybe put up a physical bearer at night, a blanket, or maybe she could put on headphones/earbuds for the natural sounds of climaxing (not that guys make a lot of noise, at least the ones I've been around when they cum). And get a candle or incense for the odor.
What are you talking about? the smell of cum is the most beautiful smell... I cant get enough to smell my cum.. :-) and masturbate is the most relaxing things to do.
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