As we celebrate Masturbation Month, and I look through the traffic sources to see which phrases lead people to this blog, I find two recurring searches: "men masturbating together" and "fathers and sons masturbating."
The more we realize and accept that men jack off often, the more honest we are about that fact, the better. It takes the negativity of it all and tosses it aside, leaving guys the freedom to engage in this ancient activity together.
The NY Jacks is seeing an increase in membership, and an increase in attendance. And, if statistics hold out, that would mean an increase in the number of straight men joining in the festivities.
My own experience with Jack Off Clubs indicated there are more self-identifying straight men than one would suspect. Our ratio held at right around 90% straight, married men - proving that married guys enjoy it.
As for fathers and sons.... Well, we all know that too many men are embarrassed to even discuss jacking off with their sons, let alone teach them about it. Joycelyn Elders' words really should be heeded: "Masturbation is something that, perhaps, should be taught."
Though in my opinion, there's no perhaps about it. As her naysayers and detractors demanded, it should be taught in the home. That means fathers should be teaching their sons about it; not only the whys but the hows. Sadly, it doesn't happen in enough homes.
Learning masturbation, engaging in this most common activity leads to healthy attitudes about sex, acceptance and appreciation of what we've been given at birth, and how to use them to derive the fullest extent of pleasure possible.