What Do Partners Think?

Jean raised an interesting question. We guys look at other men to compare size. We want to assure ourselves that what we have is adequate, that it measures up to the next guy. But, what do our partners think of our cocks?

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I've had compliments over the years. But, most never commented at all. In total, I'd have to say only one woman complained; I was too big because the head of my cock would ram against her cervix when I would cum. While I wanted to shove "balls deep," she preferred that I pull out and stroke to finish.

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Of the men, once in a while a guy would give me a quick, "God, that's a nice cock." One wrapped his hand around it and asked, "What can I do for you, Big Boy?" So, okay, at 7.5", it's interesting that I never considered it as anything exceptional.

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My brother, on the other hand: 10" (before the prostate surgery) - now that is exceptional.

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While our buddies eagerly grabbed on and had fun

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women always shied away when they saw it. He still says he feels lucky that he found a woman to marry.

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So, tell us...

What have your partners had to say about your cock?

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I'll be taking the weekend off.

Over the past week, or so, some of you have expressed a willingness to participate in The Manhood Project.

If you are interested and willing, please send me an email so I can send you the interview questions and brief instructions.

whkattk@gmail.com

How Important Is Yours?

Patrick asked "Why is it so much a part of our lives?" The answer is complicated, with as many variations as there are men in the world. For most men, it's not enough to simply have a cock; it needs to get hard, it needs to be big, it needs to measure up to the next guy.

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Some men are "showers" - good-sized in the flaccid state and don't enlarge that much with an erection. Others are "growers" - small when soft, but they gain more than double in length and girth when hard.

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It's very difficult for many men to accept what they have.

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Competition will be with us forever. But a man should never have to feel like this:

In the Manhood book, some of the guys admit to sneaking off to "fluff up" a bit before exposing themselves in a locker room and gym showers,

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and then they'll look at the other guy(s), look down at their own cock and still wonder if they're big enough.

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Contrary to what many people think, cock size issues don't stem from porn. We've always been obsessed with measuring and comparing our results to other men; always been in that competition. It's hard-wired into our psyches because we must compete to reproduce. That's how important our cocks are to us. That's how important our boners are to us.

I dare say, we have more issues based on the size of our cocks than women have with the size of their tits. One man in the study said, "At least women have options. They can get surgery. There's nothing a man can do about the size of his dick."

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 And the importance of it doesn't wane with age.

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How important is yours?

Boners and Buddies

Two blog posts today (how2bate and AOM artistry of male) inspired me to talk about spontaneous boners and buddies.

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The thing about boners that seemingly pop up out of nowhere, 

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or those we wake with after dreaming about something completely nonsexual,

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is that the rushing of blood to the cock is doing its natural physiological job to keep the tissues of the Cavernosum healthy.

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Even men who have had prostate surgery will sometimes experience morning wood. The paraplegic and quadriplegic will experience spontaneous boners. This is the only way for the inner cock tissue to get the blood oxygen it needs.

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The rigidness will vary, but the cock still swells.

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And this brings me to the buddies part. Men really need to work on their male-male relationships. Oh, here we go again! Back to the Manhood Project. But, it's true. We men need to cease being such delicate flowers.

My God, straight guys. Calm down - it's only a penis. You have one. Is it so awful that you see your friends naked? Or that they see you naked? If you do get naked in front of one another, do you really need to be that skittish that you must stay five feet away form another nude man? 

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Or that you must flinch or freak out if he touches you?

Why should it be a problem if a buddy happens to get a bit of a boner? Or if he happens to bump into you in the gym shower?

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Get real, men. Man up! Cocks and hard-ons are normal, natural, and common. Stop reacting as if they're some dangerous alien from space.

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What Is Porn?

What is porn? Because of the use of explicit language and imagery, the majority of our society would label this blog "pornography." I never intended it to be; in my opinion it isn't. To my thinking, it is educational and informative. At least that is what I strive for.

Faithful Reader Jean sent a wonderful link from the NY Times. Op-ed contributor Lux Alptraum hits upon some major points I've tried to make, but without photos and without rhetoric which might be considered vulgar.

For me, words are words; "penis" conjures the same mental image as "cock;"

"boner" or "hard-on" brings to mind the same thing as "erection,"

and it simply depends upon personal preference and, at times, the situation. The same might be said for photos, gifs, and videos; yet "a picture is worth a thousand words." But, interpretation will differ. Where one might see two men engaging in sex, I might see two men in the midst of a buddy ball-and-cock check.

What would this gif conjure?

For me, Alptraum's most important point is this:

We belong to "...a culture where sex education is minimal, fear based, and often inaccurate; parents treat the sex talk as a shameful task to be gotten over with as quickly as possible; ... We need to stop treating sex as a taboo topic and start treating it as an ordinary aspect of life, one that young people should be educated about in all its weird, wonderful, risky and rewarding complexity."

Read the entire op-ed piece here: NY Times - The Opinion Pages

What do you think: What constitutes porn?