Thursday, April 25, 2019

Is Male Masturbation Gross?

A reader remarked in the comments the other day about the plethora of articles on men's sexuality and sex which are written by women. I think men are too afraid to write about these things.
Men are too shy to talk about these things - other than, maybe, making jokes.
Men are too ashamed to admit to and write about sexual issues.
I've been saying for the last 9+ years that men are much better at hand jobs than women.
It's why I recommend mutual masturbation - particularly straight couples.

Here's a woman who gets it. In her short article for Medium, Male Masturbation Isn't Gross, Tracybyfire goes whole hog on the double-standard of men v women when it comes to solo sex. 

"When it comes to handling a penis, I’m just not adept.
Maybe it’s a lack of practice. Maybe I’m just uncoordinated. I never learned to swim, and I can’t ride a bicycle. Some people just aren’t cut out for certain tasks.
That’s why you’ll never hear me complain about a man who takes matters into his own hands. Do you masturbate? Fantastic. I’d be more than happy to hear about it. I can watch. I can cheer you on. I can even be of some assistance, with the proper motivation and detailed step-by-step instructions — but I will never call it gross."





This 3-5 minute read is worth the time. Especially for you straight dudes who read this blog.

4 comments:

SickoRicko said...

Yes, good article.

Xersex said...

always so useful!!!

Your French Patrick said...

It's about sex scenes and not about porn scenes, but you may be interested by this:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/11890295/Why-are-men-so-bad-at-writing-sex-scenes.html

Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

Anonymous said...

I think it's the media's neuroses. Same reason you can talk about rimjobs, RIMJOBS! (For the uninitiated, that's when you lick someone's asshole.) and it's not disgusting to sex documentarians, but the foreskin is (including to Ms Tracy Egan herself).

Male masturbation is more often presented as a joke than anything, a substitute for the real thing. Childish. So there are a lot of double standards about it. Notice that Jason Biggs fucking a pie got an R, but a more modest masturbation scene in But I'm a Cheerleader got an NC-17. (Also, gay content.)