Big Whack Attack: 2025

Thursday, July 24, 2025

An Actual Relationship

Morning.

A question from a Faithful Reader:

"I wanted to ask something deeper today. Lately, I keep thinking about how so many men feel lonely. It’s like an epidemic of loneliness. Many of us go through these cycles: watching porn, jerking off, scrolling apps like Grindr, hooking up quickly, and then back to the same loop again. It’s dopamine, dopamine, dopamine… but I wonder, what’s happening to real human connection?

I love seeing beautiful men and big cocks, of course – it’s hot and exciting. But then I look at reality and realise I don’t have those types of connections in real life. And when I try to, it often feels empty, like there’s no camaraderie, friendship, or genuine care. Just quick sex and leaving.

Do you ever think about this? What is the reality behind the fantasy we see here? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with what you’re posting – I actually think it’s beautiful to see these men. But I’m curious about your perspective on why we feel so lonely despite all of this. Why is there so little talk about building healthy, human relationships alongside our sexual desires?"

The situation you're asking about has been developing over the years since social media began, and has only gotten worse since COVID. We have isolated ourselves. The idea of the hook-up apps, like Grindr, etc, are fine for their intended purpose: Sex; a lot of it anonymous, one-time things to satisfy the urge. But if we want social connection or an actual relationship, we have to get out among people. Even if we're introverts, we can still feel more connection and establish friendships and relationships by getting out of the house. By going and doing things which interest us, we'll "find our people" as the saying goes. Volunteering, joining a club.

I think a lot of folks think that being on social media is establishing relationships. The connections aren't close --- those "online friends" don't really care beyond typing a few words or clicking the emoji, Thus, the stay-at-home experience leaves them feeling alone and lonely.