Thursday, April 30, 2020

We'll Get Through This

Can't seem to get any pictures to load. But....

I've been getting lots of emails - and comments - about the lack of ability to "take care of business" as it were. Some because there's a lack of privacy, some because of the stress of the entire COVID-19 situation. Depression is setting in; for some, like Rick, it's depression on top of depression.

Some, like RAD, who work from home have found it even more difficult and exhausting than actually having to go into an office each day. The increased number of calls and interruptions to the normal workday have increased, having an accumulative effect both mentally and physically, leaving them no time or energy.

Folks, we must make time for ourselves. Take as many breaks as you can; get up from the computer, stretch, roll the shoulders and walk around the house for a few minutes.

As I suggested to RAD, go to bed early. Relax, clear your mind. Give your cock some playful tugs and strokes. Put your focus on the sensations.

One young guy is being embarrassed by his mom with her constant snide remarks; the increased use of paper towels, then the condition of washcloths in the laundry. (Here's a hint regarding washcloths: Rinse them out before you drop them into the hamper.)

If you don't live alone, and you feel you must hide the the fact you're jacking off, I have to urge you to find the place and make time to take care of yourself. You deserve it. You owe it to yourself. If someone is trying to embarrass you about it, wave it off. Laugh about it.

Whatever your situation, don't let it interfere with your mental or physical well-being.

As Jean has said, "Take care of yourself. Stay safe." We'll get through this.

Wednesday, April 29, 2020

It's Important

I missed posting yesterday. Got interrupted and then carried away by "honey dos."
Saw this comic the other day and thought, Oh, my. After all these years, is little Billy growing up?
Regardless of the intention of the artist, that's what popped into my mind. But,  waking with a good solid boner is definitely an indication of a good day ahead. That's particularly important during this pandemic. One of the first indications of not feeling/being well is the lack of erections.

Since ED is usually caused by an issue of blood flow, and COVID-19 is now known to cause blood clots -  though not an immediate indication of this virus, no boners for an extended period of time could spell some type of trouble.

So, it's important right now to pay attention to how often your cock rises.

Monday, April 27, 2020

Enjoy Your Day

So, I'm feeling quite lazy today. Unmotivated. Yesterday was another cloudy, dreary day. I figured maybe we all could use a little sunshine. If you live near a beach...

 be sure to practice proper social distancing.

Me? I'm hitting the pool (finally).

Hope you enjoy your day.

Friday, April 24, 2020

Take Time to Play

Life amid the lock-down.

But, as AOM says, we must remember to take time to play.

Thursday, April 23, 2020

Where Do I Draw the Line?

I had a post all ready to go, and then this email popped into the Inbox:

"Thanks for your blog. I appreciate all of the advice and insights you offer.

I read with interest your approach to the email from a reader who, while sheltering in place with his buddy, went from jacking off together to more intimate sexual activity and his concern about whether that means they are gay.

I’m in a somewhat similar situation but with some twists. I don’t have to wonder if I’m gay - I am. I came out in high school.

 I’m a grad student who had to leave campus and am sheltering with my dad. We’ve always been open about sex and sexuality and he’s fine with my being gay. A few days in to the lockdown, he walked in on me watching porn and masturbating. He quickly said “sorry” and turned to leave but then turned around and asked if he could join me. I didn’t know how to react but mumbled “okay” and he dropped his pants and we jacked off together. At some point he asked to switch to straight porn and I said okay.

My parents are divorced and I’m sure dad has various sexual partners over the last couple of years, but not for a while, of course. We didn’t talk about what happened for a couple of days, but finally he said he was sorry he had walked in on me and wanted to know how I felt about it. I told him I was surprised at first and didn’t know how to react, but that as time went on it felt okay.

One thing led to another and we’ve had several masturbation sessions together and have even started giving each other a helping hand. Knowing I’m gay, he has asked if I would be willing to go further. I’m not sure how to respond to that. Where do I draw the line? Or do I? Given that neither of us is in a monogamous sexual relationship, who knows when either of us will feel safe to have a sex partner again?

I’d be curious to read what you and your readers might have to say about this whole situation."

I think Faithful Reader Jean stated it well in her comment on the post you reference: "Necessity is the mother of invention."
I think you're very lucky to have a non-judgmental dad who doesn't have a problem with you being gay, that's for sure, and one who not only understands the need for release but is open and honest about it to the extent he is.

Your initial reaction to his request to join you is understandable. Though, I'll say I'm glad you agreed because I don't think a father - if they're open about guys masturbating - to masturbate together wouldn't be all that unusual. Even to the point of lending a hand. 

To go further? Where do you draw the line? Or do you draw the line? It's completely up to you, of course; you are both adults and it's consensual. If it's not one-sided, if he's planing on being reciprocal, if he's exploring his own sense of previously limited orientation, fine.

If it's a completely usury situation where he's only looking for you to suck his cock, or allow him to fuck you but you get nothing and are left to your own devices, I'd say no.

What say you, Readers?