Straight Men Do, Too

Two things. First an update.

"I got your second response and took the advice. I called my sister and got a very hearty "Please!" when I suggested a talk with her son. "Jesus Christ, maybe he'll calm down a bit if he knows he's got permission to jerk off." So, the talk went well. He understood my misgivings about dropping trou and showing him, as my wife suggested. Judging by the amount of paper towels in the waste basket, he thoroughtly enjoyed the clips you suggested. The questions after were straight-forward and easy to answer. I think he's actually relieved to find out he's just a normal horny teen."

Well, so there ya go. It's easier than we all fear when we face The Talk. The next email was a bit onerous at first.

"Why do gay dudes love taking it up  the ass so much?"

Well, pardner, it ain't just gay men who enjoy that. You've heard about the women's G-Spot? Well, for men, there's this thing called the Prostate. Manipulating and stimulating it increases the hardness of a boner, and it feels really good.

Look up "pegging" and you'll discover that straight men "love taking it up the ass," too. 

External pressure, or pushing a finger in...

And, though not too many will openly admit to it, but leave them alone in a room with their wife's or girlfriend's vibrator....

There's so much more to sexual pleasure than your cock. 

Unwind

It's been rough. We're tired, we're sore. The chaos that reigns in DC has kept us on edge. It seems to be a constant nail-biter. But, we made it through another week. Now, it's time to regroup.

Turn off the TV, put on some of your favorite soothing music. Leave the rest of the world behind. It's time for renewal. Get some of your favorite comfort foods ready, grab your favorite beverage. Then get naked. Kick back.

spend the weekend with yourself, treating yourself. No need to rush. Relax. 

 Enjoy yourself. 

Revel in yourself. Spoil yourself.

Take your time.

Nice and slow.

Let it loose.

It's one of the best ways there is to unwind. So, when the mood strikes again - and it will - do it all again.

Tell me you will... 

Cock in Courtship

Jean and T both made an excellent point to yesterday's post - I should have told the man to first get his sister's permission to educate her son about masturbation. I'll have to send a follow-up email, and hope it's not too late.

But, I also agree with fullmoonma. It's a shame that we have reached these tenuous times in respect to educating the young. There is much they should know, yet we need to proceed with such caution that I think we, in this country at least, are taking giant leaps back to the days when the penis and any knowledge of it was a taboo subject.

Contrast that to the UK's openness, as proven by the renewed television show, Naked Attraction. Participants stand nude behind frosted glass from the waist up. The folks choosing whom of these men to date see only genitals and backsides.

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

It's only after they make a choice that the men exit the glass enclosures anyone sees the entire body.

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

Photo courtesy of Naked Attraction via Cocktails and Cocktalk

And, they don't discriminate, either; gay and straight appear on the show. (Now you're wishing you were able to get the BBC, aren't you?) But the program makes for an interesting exercise. Do we begin courtship based solely upon physical attraction? And, how important is a man's cock in the mating game? Is there anything about it that would steer a decision?

Size?

 Grooming?

Presence or absence of a foreskin?

How important is (was) cock to you in the game of attraction?

Demonstrate Technique?

I love hearing from readers, whether it's via comment or email, even if it is an issue I've dealt with before. This landed in my inbox yesterday:

"My 14 year old nephew is staying with us at the beach for the summer to give my sister a break. The kid has been acting up so we thought this might give him a chance to settle down a bit. Over the weekend he saw me jerking off. Okay, no big deal, right? Guys jerk off. Now he wants me to teach him.

My wife thinks it's funny that he "caught" me "stroking the snake" and said I should absolutely teach him because he has no father in the picture. I'm okay with talking about any subject he wants. He wants to learn about his dick, fine. He wants to know about girls (or guys) and sex, no problem. But I draw the line at showing him how to jerk off.

What should I do? Do I stand my ground, or do I do as my wife suggests, which is to send her out shopping, and drop trou with him and teach him "how take care of himself?""

Well, first things first. It's good to hear you didn't freak out about him seeing you masturbating. It's positively great to hear you're willing to talk to him on any subject dealing with his maturing body and sex. It's even more heartening to hear you'll discuss male-to-male sex, because the world around us is changing and the younger generation is much more accepting of sexual fluidity (yeaay!).

Do you drop trou, take boner in hand, and demonstrate technique? Well, I'd be cautious, very cautious. If your sister should find out - what then? Would she accept it, or would she get upset - perhaps even report it to your local authorities? The thing is, he's under the age of consent.

As much as I'm all for being open about jacking off, as much as I'm all for teaching young men what they have a right to know, I'm going to suggest you keep your cock in your pants. All it would take to ruin your life is to have him get pissed off about something you say, or do, and accuse you of sexual abuse and assault.

Buy some solo DVDs, or purchase some clips from a site like LegendMen, and have him watch. Some of those guys take masturbation to new levels. If you want to sit there to answer questions, fine. If - sorry, when he gets a boner, if he wants to follow along with the guys on the screen, let him. But try to keep your boner in your pants, keep his hands off your cock, and definitely keep your hands off his.

Readers:

What's your opinion? Is it okay to jack off with the nephew to demonstrate with no touching, or should he keep his own cock under wraps?