Without Shame

 

"One of your readers left a comment last week that guys should get more comfortable with enjoying sex together. I thought I'd share this.

My girlfriend was afraid of the virus and refused to visit. I respected that but as a result we drifted apart and don't talk much anymore. My neighbor's marriage has fallen victim too as I've heard is getting common. So, we started hanging out commiserating. At one point we bitched about having to jerk off all the time now. Well, that turned out to be the best thing to happen for both of us. We hook up several times a week now for sex. We both admit it's been awesome and we both don't care who knows. Will we both go back to women when this is all over? Probably. Will we give up the man to man stuff? I seriously doubt it, it's too much fun."

I've read numerous sources stating that many relationships have failed over the course of the pandemic. 24/7 togetherness can create a strain if we don't provide one another time apart for personal interests. It's why couples find retirement to be so difficult - at least in the beginning.

As I've indicated to my Faithful reader during our correspondence: The thing about man-to-man sexual encounters is the fact that most (not all, but most) men are able to separate sex from love or intimacy. Love and intimacy are normal emotional responses - and needed for a stable relationship. Sex is a biological response and, for men, a biological need.

Hooking up with your neighbor is an excellent solution. You're both satisfying a need. That you're both not ashamed of it is...well, excellent. It's real-life proof of what Human Sexuality Experts have been saying since Kinsey's famous studies (eventually corroborated by Masters and Johnson). Humans are sexual beings and their orientation - their sexual attraction and arousal factors - do not fall into two strict categories. Rather it spans the spectrum.

I hope lots and lots of men see your letter and realize they can allow themselves to enjoy male-male sex without shame.

Father - Son Nudity

Thank you all so much for the birthday wishes, here and via email. It did my heart good. As I'm sure it did for Jean, as well.

The Father - Son Nudity post garnered a lot of response. And an email from brothers who occasionally leave comments. 

"Hi, Pat. my brother and me wanted to clarify some stuff for your readers after leaving the comments about the Father - Son post that you did. our dad left his comment that he didn't think he scarred us because he saw us naked and we saw hi naked. even with boners. and that was really cool to know it wasn't weird. we did see him jerk off once too but he didn't know we were there. we thought it was kind of cool that our dad did that. he told us it was okay and even told us we should do it as often as we wanted but ti was another whole thing seeing him do it and were glad we did because it reinforced what he said. he gave us access to this blog and told us to read from the first post. and we tell our buddys to read too because theres so much good info here about our dicks and balls. if anything at all left me and my brother traumatized and scarred it was living with our very religious mother becvause shes the one who told us our dicks were nasty and dirty and we shouldnt ever touch them except to pee. we finally got to petitiion the courts to let us live with our dad. were in college now and still thank our dad for giving us the infor. our suggestion to the guy that wrote in is to keep being that open with your son because he will appreciate it more than he knows. - the 2 R's"

So, all you dads out there, listen up. Because, there you have it: Brothers who appreciate the open honesty they received from their dad about their bodies.

Male Sexuality & Massage

 

I've been emailing with a Faithful Reader who lives in Australia. Our conversations have ranged from male sexuality to massage. With the weekend upon us, I thought those two things are so truly intertwined.

Men are built different. It's really that simple. And that complicated. See, we grow up (as the father explained in the email I posted yesterday) getting boners. We grow up handling our cocks multiple times a day - they get hard multiple times a day. We wake up with a hard-on most days.

Men are more sexually centered than women. Our balls produce millions of sperm a minute. Our biological make-up goes back millions of years to when our only real purpose was to procreate, spread our gene pool as far and wide as possible. Somewhere along the way that became corraled with marriage and monogamy. Yet, the urge for release is still present. Our bodies respond to touch.

And so it is when it comes to massage. At least for me. My cock didn't care if it was a man or a woman doing my massage, by the time they told me to turn over my cock could've served as a table leg.

I've had different reactions. to that reaction. But, mostly, thank goodness, it was accepted as normal. Because it is. Then how does a masseur know it's okay to take my boner in hand?

First, let's be clear: no money was ever been requested (or offered) before that happened. That's called prostitution and illegal. Typically, the hands keep bumping into the boner, or brushing against the balls. If I didn't comment, more deliberate touch would ensue until actual cock and ball massage was being delivered.

Erotic massage is offered by many. Tantric Massage some call it. Or Sensual Body Work. It's glorious and, in my opinion, a massage is not complete without it.

We men are very sexual beings. Our cocks gar hard and our balls want release. It is normal. It is natural. It should be more accepted than it currently is. Maybe that's why more and more men are taking and sharing their dick-pics.

Maybe that's why more and more men are exploring sexual activity with guys. It's more accessible because men are more agreeable to the hook-up without the strings attached.

Readers, what's your take?

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Last thing: Faithful Reader Jean and I share today as our birthday.

Happy Birthday, Jean!

Father - Son Nudity

 

"Reading today's post I had to write and ask your opinion. My son and I enjoy being naked when my wife is gone. Its not anything sexual or to do with anything sexual we just like being nude. Sometimes we just sit and read or watch a game on tv or play a video game. My wife thinks its terrible that we would be naked together and we need to stop. We don't think we should have to hide our bodies because we're bopth male after all. But she's like what if one of you gets hard. I covered that with him when he was like 5 and had the sex talk with him aroud 12. He knows what a boner is and we don't think we should have to stop because of her crazyness. What do you and the rest of your readers think?"

Father - son nudity? Nothing wrong with it at all. What you're doing is teaching him he has nothing he needs to hide away, nothing he should be ashamed of, nothing to be embarrassed about.

If you taught him about his erections at 5 - because males get boners in the womb, fer cryin' out loud - and taught him about sex around 12, you've got things covered. The majority of men don't.

So, personally, I applaud you.

But, you wanted to know what my readers thought.

Readers?