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Slow the Process

 

Morning

"Me and my bud are both married but we get together once in a while in a hotel suite and spend the day chilling and bating. He stays hard for a long time after he shoots his load but mine goes soft right away. Why?"

Immediately, completely soft? Or, does it go down gradually?

Are your bate sessions later in the day or evening? If so, it could be testosterone levels, which become depleted over waking hours. But it isn't something to be overly concerned about.

Is there an age gap? The older we are, the faster the boner wilts and the longer it takes to recover for a second or third round.

Do you feel a sense of guilt over masturbating with a friend, perhaps like you're both cheating on your wives? Guilt can be a powerful thing - though jacking off shouldn't be considered "cheating;" even if it is with a buddy, it's still solo activity.

That said, the amount of time it takes to lose an erection after ejaculation will vary. And it will be different from guy to guy. Does he continue to stroke his cock and play with his balls after he cums? That could be what helps to keep him hard.

Continued stimulation after you cum should at least slow the process.

The daily email claiming sensitive content is getting tedious.

Counter Proposal

 

Morning.

The morning wood and coffee - just kind of go together.

A question left on Monday's post:

"My coworker asked me something unusual. I became single at the beginning of the year, and we dirty talk a lot we've seen each other naked too. He was transferred and I met his wife at the last office party. They like cuckold and he asked me if I wanted to join in, he just wanted to watch. He showed me the group on his cell phone that he is part of, but his wife wants someone she knows. How do I refuse the proposal?"

There are people who like the idea of watching. It's like a porn movie playing out right there in front of them. And, yes, there are some folks, like this couple, who like watching their partner. For them, sex is sex and has nothing to do with their love for one another.

How do you refuse the proposal? In my mind, it should be as simple as saying it's not your scene --- not for you --- regardless of what you may have talked about in the past.

Though, I will say, there's nothing wrong with making a counter proposal that might be of more interest to you.

Readers: Any other ideas?

Straight but Curious

 

Good morning.

"I'm a straight single guy and never been in a committed relationship. I'm dating a woman for the last month or so but there's a small problem. I turn 30 this year and before there's any commitment I want to know what sex would be like with a guy. I have this fantasy of sucking a guys dick. Two questions, I guess. Do I have to tell this woman before I do it and do I have to tell any potential hookup that I'm straight but curious?"

If you are not in a committed relationship with this woman, I wouldn't think you have to divulge your hook-up. If you find you enjoy M-M sex, but you still want to move forward in the relationship with her, then it might be a good idea to tell her.

Do you have to tell a potential hook-up you're straight and curious? I wouldn't think so. Just don't get started and then quit in the middle of something. Yes, absolutely, people can change their minds, and no means no. But, just remember what it was like when a girl or woman got you aroused and then left you with a bad case of blue balls.

Seriously, it's not cool.
What do you think, Readers? Does he have to tell them?