The second question to show up was about mutual masturbation among straight men and will be perfect for giving you all the weekend to leave comments.
"I recently found this blog and I've been enjoying it a lot. I cannot identify myself here, but I’m 16. I have never seen this subject so well discussed elsewhere. By the way, I'm committed to reading all blog posts - it's still May 2011... But I'd like to ask a question about mutual jerk-off
After I started reading the blog, it helped me a lot. Now I no longer need to be ashamed of what I have between my legs, nor the sensations that “he” brings. I took advantage and resolved my sexuality. I'm straight, and I take non-sexual male friendship and partnership very seriously.
During the pandemic, everyone in my circle of friends (which was already quite small) distanced themselves from each other. But now that school is back, I'm going to see them again. I would like my closest friends to know about this “lifestyle” that I live. They're still the kind of teenagers who can't see another cock because they think they're too gay - but I don't blame them, because misinformation about sex is so serious. I would very much like them to stop this closed mindset and enjoy this lifestyle.
So this is my question: how do I approach jerk off, or even mutual jerk off with a friend, without looking gay or naughty? How do I invite a friend for a jerk-off without him being embarrassed? How do I approach this subject about male friendship without sounding naughty?
P.S.: Recently too (before I got to know the blog), I made a friend online through a forum on a similar subject. He lives in another state, but when we can, we want to see each other. This friend appreciated the idea of the mutual jerk off so well, but aiming at the partnership, nothing naughty. I just wanted to say that it's been a very enriching friendship."
I'm happy you stumbled across the blog and hope you'll keep reading. If you're up to the May 2011 posts, you have a lot more to get through. I think there's tons of good info in here - I hope so, anyway.
Guys have been jacking off together since time immemorial. Gay, straight, bi, it doesn't matter. The fact is, we all masturbate (yes, women do, too). Heck, most guys your age, are stroking out a load at least twice a day.
My brother and I used to jack off together all the time when we were your age. Then we joined in with our buddies.
In the military, there was a weekly circle-jerk on the 3rd floor of the barracks.
There are JackOff Clubs all over the planet. A full 20-25% of members self-identify as straight and mutual masturbation is not an indication of sexual orientation. It's simply a "guy" thing.
There are so many different ways to introduce mutual masturbation. The most common, I would think, is having a discussion about it; admitting you jack off because it feels good, you enjoy it. If a guy denies he does it, well, I think I'd be asking him if he never gets a boner.
Once you become comfortable with discussing it, asking if they want to watch some porn together is a natural flow of events. Watching others masturbate is a great way to learn new techniques for enjoying yourself.
I'd wait until after a few sessions to tentatively reach out to lend a hand. Or ask if it's okay to stroke his cock.
I would be remiss if I didn't warn you to be cautious in meeting up with someone you've only conversed with in an online forum. There are a lot of people who create false personas and prey on others less experienced. If you can't see him in a live video chat, I'd encourage you to pass.
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I agree about being cautious if he makes contact with someone online. Also, his being straight is somehow a hindrance, because he'd find tons of gay men to jerk off with but that dynamic is skewed.
I imagine there's online groups for EVERYTHING, including straight men who get together to jerk off. So good luck!
XOXO
Your reader is a three star redactor. Congrats, if you didn't rewrite his text.
But I have the impression that he has solved his problem and is looking more for confirmation than a solution.
I confirm that he can continue on his way with peace of mind avec ma bénédiction. Amen.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
Have a great weekend.
I know with the Lumbersexual who is no and me being gay....it got to a comfort level...and then I just slipped in the conversation once when we were high about being horny. I just came out and ask if he would be interested in jacking off...with no touching...just jacking and hanging. It worked and he have hung out a few times now. And moved on to oral.
Or this reader could talk about his fantasies about mutual jack off and see how receptive his friends are. There's bound to be one taker.
I suggest that he could ask a trusted friend.
Just ask the question if everyone is comfortable with each other. The reality is every one of his friends do it. Bring it up in casual conversation that you do it and see where it goes from there. Everyone does it, even the girls do.
During that age I hardly ever did that with anyone but when older plenty times. With close friends when we went out driving in the mountains or in the forest there would be times where we got our dicks out and jerked off. We didnt care who was straight and who wasnt. We had close family friends house get damaged in a storm and they had a friend that rented out their converted garage and he stayed at my house until their house was repaired. He was older than me and was at my house for a few months. At the start everything was all fully clothed around each other but by the end of it we only put clothes on if we were leaving the house or if we were cold (it was summer so most we had on were socks as the house had tile floors). We walked around naked all the time and would jerk off together just about every day. Never anything sexual between us just we were comfortable enough around each other. It was just 2 guys playing around with their dicks thats all it was.
Lots of red flags on this field. I'm out.
I did jerk off with friends growing up.
But what I can suggest is casually leave a porn where it looks like you tried to cover up. Say something like "Aw man, I was looking at these girls when you came over, and I forgot to hide the magazine."
For me it was more likely a car mag. My parents were strange in that way: Cool with me jerking off with friends, they even caught us once and Dad was later all "Don't worry, it's normal, every guy does it and most have probably done it with another guy." but porn meant a lecture on how the women were supposedly all slaves.
Oh, funny thing, despite that meme, I hate oil. I tried it in college, never could get used to it.
I am an out gay man now but didn't come out until age 38. I can't tell you how many straight men jerked off with me over the years from high school on. It was usually in situations where we had something to drink or were just really talking about sex and getting horny. A LOT of men are willing to jerk off if they aren't threatened so keep your hands to yourself and your thoughts of touching unless you KNOW they are ready and willing. Also, be careful. You only need to do this with someone you know until you are old enough to really know how to check out someone before meeting them. Last, remember that many men are ok with jerking off when horny but have "buyers remorse" and may freak out after. That's one of the many reasons why I'd make the first time with someone I know very casual and fun and not threatening to them so that you don't lose a friend and you are safe as well.
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