"we're all guys except for our mom and when she's not around we all even our dad walk around naked and never worried about getting boners or the others seeing us with a boner even our dad. he even told us we shouldn't be ashamed of our cocks or jacking off and we got two brothers to a room and we all do it. the other day our dad came home while me and my one brother was jeacking off in the livingroom and he told us we had to go to our bedroom to do that. it's not like our mom was comeing home or anything she was out at our granmas house across the country. why would he all of the sudden make us go to our room? we're just really confused that if we aren't supposed to be ashmed of boners and jackingoff why he made usch a big deal?"
I wish I had an answer for you. To be honest, if I was in that same situation, I would be confused, too. On the one hand you've all often been nude around one another, with and without boners. He knows you masturbate it sounds as if he not only condones it but encourages it. Then he sees you doing it and wants you to go to your room.
My only guess is --- for him, anyway --- knowing his sons jack off and seeing you doing it are two different things.
Bottom line, I'd say you and your brothers need to ask your dad that question. Without sounding mad or upset.
27 comments:
I never had that situation. Dad and I often stroked off in the morning. The other men around the house pumped openly, in the living room, by the pool (but NOT in it!), and nobody was put out. Dad encouraged us to not get jizz all over the place, so we blew our loads on ourselves, or on each other. Nobody had any qualms about helping another guy unload his cum, and mutual cock pulling and circle jerks were permitted. I can see how the men are confused by the sudden change in their Father's attitude. Since they're open and unashamed, they ought to ask him what's up, and why the change.
I suspect you're correct. Dad knows the guys are jerking off but doesn't want to see them doing it. I agree with you, the only way to get an answer to the writers question is to ask Dad.
Perhaps it was just the location he found inappropriate.
Has he allowed this before and changed his mind? Or is this the first he's aware of this activity taking place in the living room? Maybe he just feels no biggie if you get off, but just not in the common living areas. What if he came home with a friend, relative or whatnot? It's not a big deal that a family are naturists, but would be a bigger deal if sexual activity was on display. May also be wanting to avoid any future fallout. What if mom came home earlier than planned? What if the kids get too lax and get caught by mom on a day when she's out shopping and comes home early? So many what if scenarios. If you're all open, just politely ask the dad. Maybe he just doesn't want splooge on the couch or carpet, lol.
Definitely the difference between knowing and seeing.
I would have sent them to their room, too. Why? convenience. Getting cum stains off furniture is no fun. Also, there's a place for everything. One thing is to walk around naked/with a chub and another is just jerk off all around the house. When they have their apartments/homes they can do that.
XOXO
Or maybe that time he just was in a less open-minded mood - you know, we can sometimes come back home from work or an errand in a preoccupied state of mind.
Anyway, maybe it could be a good thing to ask your father about his reaction (you'll choose the right time to do so, obviously). Smart as he is, a simple question will lead to a simple answer. And who knows, to boundaries and rules you'll all agree to as a family.
The dad should have explained to them his reasoning. I thought maybe it was to keep from getting jizz on the couch.
The was a time in my life when I thought nothing of strolling naked through the house and out to the pool, and enjoying a good, leisurely stroke session floating under the sun. But now as an aging old fart, I would probably say "Hey, guys, take it somewhere else." Doesn't mean I've changed my stance on nudity, boners and loads, just not feeling like I need to see it front and center in the living room.
Kinda like surfing porn. Was once a daily / hourly thing. Now perhaps occasionally each week.
It is clear that discussion is the best way to resolve all misunderstandings or other disagreements.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
Have a great day.
Or maybe dad didn't want to have to steam clean the couch. In case of a mess. Or maybe in case some neighbor stopped by. It didn't seem like they stopped when they heard dad come in the house. And what if he wasn't alone?
Maybe dad didn't want to steam clean the couch. In case of a mess. Or maybe he was worried about a neighbor coming over. Or he might not have been alone when he came home. Didn't sound like they stopped when dad came home.
I can only surmise the father thought there's the time and place for it. He probably just thought it's not polite to do it in a common area.
I think it a simple matter of etiquette. Everyone is comfortable that everyone masturbates. There are no secrets or shame. But maybe it doesn't have to be a public display in a living area. It avoids scrambles if someone comes to the door or another person is surprised by entering the room unexpectedly.
It is possible your dad wants to make sure if you jack off, you don't cum all over the living room. He may not care if you do it in your own bedroom. Very strange all right.
Tony Italian.
I do believe the Dad was trying to set some boundaries. The living room is not a jack off room. Bedrooms are for jacking off. Bathrooms are for jacking off. The basement... but not the living room. Boundaries are needed in order to create a safe, welcoming environment for all... this is what happens when you live with other people.
Notice that the Father did not tell the boys to stop masturbating (together), simply to move to the room.
Could be a practical reason: not to have cum stains on the sofa or the floor/rug.
Or if there is a chance that they could be seen from outside.
I am sure that if the found them wanking each other He will not bat an eye.
Hope the boys report back
@ Six - As I know from experience after a giving a party --- it is not easy getting cum out of cloth upholstery. Had to get it professionally cleaned...then to tell the dude who went to clean it what he was attempting to remove. Well, at least he chuckled. XOXO
Mom’s away so dad takes over trying to keep things clean, etc. It’s a good chance he’s the one that will get the house tidied up before his wife gets home. It could be something as simple as that and nothing more. My guess is his wife left the house clean and expects it to be so when she gets back. hugs and bisous.
I agree with those who say the problem is the location. Dad just does not what to associate the living room with an image of his boys wanking.
@ Jean - I think you may have nailed at last part of it with that answer. Hugs and bisous.
I think like Sixpence Notthewiser
The quote is in two parts: the Dad being fine with nudity and boners, whilst the Mom is out of the house, and being fine with masturbation, however it doesn't say anything about limits on the masturbation. The situation is that now Dad has provided acceptable limits over masturbation, which seem reasonable enough.
The OP would need to ask the Dad why the sudden clarification, but I'm not sure why there would be confusion if the OP thought about the situation for a moment: shared living spaces do not support the same kind of activities as private spaces without consent from all parties involved, including Mom and any potential visitors, particularly unannounced.
This is all based on the law that limits sexuality to private spaces and consent as a minimum and whilst it does tend to overreach at times, it still allows adults to consent to all kinds of activity in private.
The issue begins during the transition from child to adult when adolescents are still treated as children when they are learning to express themselves as adults and are becoming adults at different rates. I believe consent needs to be a bit flexible during this development phase, lest we prevent exploration.
I agree with JeanWM. You can masturbate, but the living room is not the most suitable place to do it.
Definitely ask the question, but report back and let us know.
@ Anon, December 5, 2023 at 6:13 PM - You can find Sixpence's blog at http://thedayandthetime.blogspot.com/
I agree with the guesses that Dad is worried about stains on the upholstery.
Post a Comment