Thursday, December 7, 2023


December 7th - "A day which will live in infamy."


"Talk about BDE."

Big Dick Energy, or BDE, has nothing to do with the actual size of a guy's package. It's an attitude, a swagger. It's an air of confidence in the way he moves, the way he speaks without being a dick, the smooth manner in which he handles himself in any given situation. That's pretty much it.

Can actually having a bid dick make a difference? Of course. That does give a man a sense of confidence but he doesn't have true BDE if he presents himself like a gift to the human race. That's my opinion, anyway.

It's kind of like Jason Segel Forgetting Sarah Marshall. The scene where he's fully naked when she breaks up with him. There he is in all his glory presenting that certain energy that allows him to express himself without being an ass.

It's worth it to note that in an interview Segel revealed that really was him and he really was naked and that really is his dick. However, in order to maintain an R rating, he couldn't have an erection. "I had to be flaccid, but I couldn't be completely soft, if you know what I mean."
In other words, he deliberately fluffed up for the scene.

Which brings us to the fact that the vast majority of photos you see - yes, even the selfie dick pics - the guys have "fluffed up."

Some are definitely partially boned.

Some aren't quite semi-hard but they aren't completely soft, either.

What's your definition of BDE?


Sixpence Notthewiser said...

BDE is a mood.
Men (and women) who have BDE project an aura of confidence and easiness that other people do not. It's the way they see the world and the way they move through life.
Some men who have BDE do have big dicks, but that really is not a requirement. I have met (and bedded) men with BDE that were probably in the 'average' realm (whatever that is) but it was their energy what attracted me.


UtahJock said...

The medical term for that is tumescent, and I have used that word, or variations of it, in the titles of some of my male nudes (that may be seen at None of my male models, including myself in the self-portraits, ''fluffed'' to get larger. Sometimes it just happens on it's own.

Big Dude said...

Nice to see just a bunch of broads included. Good. And I think every guy "gets" BDE sometimes.

JeanWM said...

The guy who has a big dick and doesn’t care, because that’s not all he is. Hugs and bisous.

uptonking said...

It's just attitude. Sometimes I find it sexy... typically I find it annoying. Great pics and gifs.

Anonymous said...

Confidence has nothing to do with big dick. My uncle is the leader of his family and friends, and I know he has no big dick. When there is an accident on the road he is the first to stop to help. I'm proud of him even though he has the shortest dick of his brothers.

fullmoonma said...

For me, BDE manifests in the desire to show off cock, knowing that you're got something special, whether it's showing a spontaneous boner to buds at age 14, getting my first BJ via an ad in the local gay newspaper, attending dozens of Body Electric workshops, trading erotic massages with hundreds of men, doing walking bates at GNI or the local gay swimming hole, posting hundreds of pix on social-networking-for-gay- cock websites or publishing a bate blog with 1.8 million page views.

whkattk said...

@ Anon, December 7, 2023 at 7:25 PM - What you just said about your Uncle is exactly BDE.

whkattk said...

@ Utah Jock - Yep. I probably should've used the actual word at some point in the post. Thanks for the link to your work!

whkattk said...

@ Jean - I think you're right about that, too. Hugs and bisous.

Anonymous said...

BDE is not about dick at all: it's confidence regardless.

I can see how dick got into it, because most men have a confidence issue about dick size as a result of competition between men and dick size then becomes an automatic level of confidence if you have it and one less challenge to confidence. It gets worse when society downvotes men based on their dick size, so a man gets an internal and external challenge to his confidence.

The use of BDE itself is a self-generating challenge to confidence, based as it is in a characteristic men do not really have any control over.

Height challenged men are in a similar situation, although it has nothing to do with dick size and again, nothing within their control.

Women have a similar issue with breast size and confidence.

However, men have an advantage in that they can reason beyond primitive emotion and moderate the impact of a challenge to confidence: women do not have that ability anywhere near as much.

Xersex said...

to be self confident with your body!