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Normal Things

 

Morning

"Wanted to thank you. Over the weekend my son said can I ask a question and I had the answer for the second time. The first was about the morning hardness and this time it was his first wet dream. So thank you for all the info you provided over the years."

Thanks for being a reader for so long. You're entirely welcome.

Education is the number one reason why I do this. The morning boner, the boners that pop up out of nowhere, the first wet dream.... 

These things are normal developments, and we should be able to explain them as such without embarrassment.

Full Function

 

Morning

"i'm in mid 20s was in a accident n have to learn things all over again. walking progress is low n frustration is high. can't raise the dead but woke up hard n wet with jizz. any chance i ever be able to get it up on purpose?"

Sorry to hear about this. It's always difficult to lose function like that at an early age. I'd like to be able to say that the nighttime boner and wet dream indicate full recovery. But I remember Christopher Reeve doing an interview with Barbara Walters years ago wherein he told her, "It's got a mind of its own." That indicated he got hard but not "on demand."

You haven't described your level of injuries, but I suppose it's possible to regain function. If you're lower extremities are slowly regaining sensation and strength, there's hope. Have you asked your doctors about this?

If not, you should. They know --- or should --- how important it is to be able to function for a guy your age.

Your age is an advantage. The healing process is faster when we're young. Listen to your doctors, and I hope you continue to heal.

A full recovery and a return to full function soon.

Knowing and Seeing

 

Good morning.

"We've never been shy about morning wood or spontaneous boners and my son knows why he gets them. He recently had his first wet dream and so now we've had the talk about masturbation. Labor day his mom saw him doing it out in the back yard and wants me to tell him. I don't think thats a good idea. Advice please?"

First, it's good to know you've been explaining things along the way. Age-appropriate education is the best way to go about it. Is it a good idea to tell him his mother saw him jacking off? No.

Should you have a talk with him about discretion? Yes.

Instead of saying his mom saw him, tell him it was you. Carry the blame to save him the embarrassment with his mother. Because he would be. There's a difference between moms and dads knowing we jack off. 

Moms know, because of course they do. But there's a difference between knowing and seeing.