Any Suggestions?

Morning

"I consider myself straight but I've always been fascinated by dick. I like to look at them, for sure and love watching j/o videos. A while back I went to a Rain City Jacks meeting. It was an interesting experience watching everyone but not really my thing. How do I find a dude who wants to get together for some 1 on 1? Grindr sucks, they all want more than that and taking an ad on Craigslist is too scary. Any suggestions?"

Trust me, you are not an outlier. Even straight porn focuses on the boners, plain and simple. Particularly when it time for the Money Shot - because that's what everyone is there to see.

The jack off groups aren't for everyone. But they do report that approximately 20 to 25% of those attending identify as straight, and many of those are married.

Particularly in the small private groups.

I think a lot of folks will tell you Grindr is for folks looking for more than mutual masturbation. And Craigslist? Well, let's say it seems a bit, um...seedy? so I don't blame you on that score. Bateworld is mostly an online thing for video chatting and bating.

But, there's a website called Buddy Bate that's exactly what you're seeking. It's specifically for men looking to hook up in real life to masturbate.

The logo has an embedded link

Since you mentioned trying out Rain City Jacks, you'll be happy to know that you'll find a lot of guys in that area on Buddy Bate.

Have a fun weekend.

An Actual Relationship

 

Morning.

A question from a Faithful Reader:

"I wanted to ask something deeper today. Lately, I keep thinking about how so many men feel lonely. It’s like an epidemic of loneliness. Many of us go through these cycles: watching porn, jerking off, scrolling apps like Grindr, hooking up quickly, and then back to the same loop again. It’s dopamine, dopamine, dopamine… but I wonder, what’s happening to real human connection?

I love seeing beautiful men and big cocks, of course – it’s hot and exciting. But then I look at reality and realise I don’t have those types of connections in real life. And when I try to, it often feels empty, like there’s no camaraderie, friendship, or genuine care. Just quick sex and leaving.

Do you ever think about this? What is the reality behind the fantasy we see here? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with what you’re posting – I actually think it’s beautiful to see these men. But I’m curious about your perspective on why we feel so lonely despite all of this. Why is there so little talk about building healthy, human relationships alongside our sexual desires?"

The situation you're asking about has been developing over the years since social media began, and has only gotten worse since COVID. We have isolated ourselves. The idea of the hook-up apps, like Grindr, etc, are fine for their intended purpose: Sex; a lot of it anonymous, one-time things to satisfy the urge. But if we want social connection or an actual relationship, we have to get out among people. Even if we're introverts, we can still feel more connection and establish friendships and relationships by getting out of the house. By going and doing things which interest us, we'll "find our people" as the saying goes. Volunteering, joining a club.

I think a lot of folks think that being on social media is establishing relationships. The connections aren't close --- those "online friends" don't really care beyond typing a few words or clicking the emoji, Thus, the stay-at-home experience leaves them feeling alone and lonely.

That's my take on it, anyway.

What say you, Readers?