Friday, December 5, 2014

Straight Dudes?

So...I've been pondering. What is it about straight guys that makes them so...I don't know...fearful? Is that the right word? Afraid of even talking about their dicks unless it's within the context of a joke? Or bragging about getting laid, the story full of machismo bullshit of ramming a pussy or titty-fucking some massive boobs?

Of course there are exceptions to that, there are always exceptions to rules. I've got a buddy, straight as straight can be, who will talk about his cock, or post to Face Book about boners, trying to take a whizz through a morning boner, being cut, about pre-cum and jacking off. (And the women love it, his wife included, and comments pile up.) Not afraid of being naked - even if he's sprouting wood.






But he's a rare specimen, indeed. Is there some specific reason straight guys seem so much more bashful about their cocks than gay or bi guys?

I leave you with that question for the weekend. What say you, straight dudes - don't be afraid to chime in here.


RockHard said...

Straight dude here. If I were single I'd be just like your friend. As it is my wife would be mortified if I did what he does. Mind you, I'd be just as comfortable with it as he seems to be. My son's gay and even he doesn't share my willingness for openness. I follow your site, and others, through Enhanced Masculinity, just to be as informed as possible about his way of life. He and I are close but, he's uncomfortable with discussing certain things. He didn't get that from me!

Anonymous said...

I don't believe they are afraid of there masculinity, just what those who really don't matter to they may think of there freedom with there sexual comfort and they should just relax and enjoy.

Your French Patrick said...

Fortunately, there is a majority of heterosexuals who are alone, and there are only two photos to be put in the basket.

I was pleasantly surprised by learning that you saw the movie "Les Miserables". There is numerous versions, I hope that it was a good one.

You wrote, "I leave you with that question for the weekend ", but I hope that you accept all the same the comments published before it finishes?

Whishing you a wondrous weekend, my dear friend, with a lot of bisous.
PS: check your mail box, please.

Anonymous said...

You want the truth? O.K...It's not that some of us straight guys wouldn't want to flaunt it a bit and be a little more bold. But, I totally agree with RockHard about the wife. I would never do anything to hurt her....and after living with her for almost 20 years, I'm sure she would not understand.

Plus, we live in a very small town where my business depends on not alienating anyone or there wouldn't be enough greenback to go around to pay our bills.
Otherwise.....I'd be more bold and frolicking about such matters.

If you live in an area where such knowledge and activities won't put you in the poor house AND you have a wife that would understand, I envy you! It's a fantasy that RockHard and I and others may never experience.

Anonymous said...

From a woman's prospective, I think I would introduce a spouse to this site. I am a widow and stumbled on this site ages ago and I am so glad I did.

Who knew! A real eye opener into how men think, and yes! You all are very different. I always thought men were comfortable with their nakedness; women, not so!

But i do have sons and grandsons and as the opportunity arises I will steer them into being less shameful. So I'd suggest if you don't have the freedom like people in bigger cities, etc, just start at home! In your home.

RockHard said...

If there were even the faintest chance it would work I'd do as you suggest. I bear her displeasure simply by wearing a shirt and no bottoms. The shirt is to keep cold air off my back. When home alone I turn up the air and get naked. In MY ideal world everyone would be nude and no one would care.

Anonymous said...

I think there are different reasons. It took me a long time to be comfy because of my upbringing. Good topic. Great to read the responses from the others. Wishing you a wonderful bonerific weekend, bro. Hugs and Strokes, AOM

Fullmoonma said...

Speaking as a gay guy, cocks are part of our sexual currency - showing cock is a technique to attract other gay men. I think straight guys understand this and don't want to send the message that they are available. An example of this happens at the gay nude swimming hole I frequent in the summer - young guys (20's) usually don't show cock because they aren't available to older men.

O!Daddie said...

Me, I'm "Bi-versatile" leaning a bit more to Gay. Have always been attracted to both women and men, spending DECADES trying to fight what came naturally. The timing was off- today I'd be confidently playing on both teams.

Anonymous said...

A lot has to do with how we were brought up. Back in the 40's and 50's it was sexuality wasn't discussed at all. Homosexuals were treated as if they had some awful disease. Not someone you were to be around should you catch that affliction. Masturbation was something we all did but never talked about it. Anyone to got caught got hell to pay for. Something "good" boys didn't do. Hah.
It's a wonder us gay guys survived our upbringing without being so paranoid about ourselves we jumped off the nearest bridge.

whkattk said...

@ Rock Hard - Unfortunately, kids aren't comfortable discussing sex with their parents. But, I surely commend you for what you do to understand your son - and to help him all you can.

It's unfortunate your wife dislikes your nudity around the home. Mine got used to me running around naked fairly early on in our relationship.

whkattk said...

@ Anon (Dec 5) - Yes, I always want the truth. That is what I try to extend to my readers. Circumstances are different for all of us and I really do appreciate the reasons you've given; they're valid, important reasons.

Thanks for leaving the comment - I hope you'll find a way to contribute more in the future.

whkattk said...

@ Anon (Dec 5, 7pm) - Brava! It is such a real pleasure to have a woman's perspective here. I'm very pleased to learn you've been reading for a long time - and to the benefit of your sons and grandsons.

I hope you'll find more opportunities to join the conversation and leave more comments! Thank you so much for reading!

whkattk said...

@ Anon (Dec 7) - How right you are - and, sadly, many gay men did commit suicide rather than face a lifetime of bigotry. And, though things have gotten better in our society, there are still young men and women who kill themselves, as witnessed by the young college man who jumped from the GW Bridge.
We must all do a better job in finding alternative avenues for them.

whkattk said...

@ Fullmoonma - I wonder how close that is to the actual truth - because it really is as most of us suspect: Straight guys are afraid of getting hit on. Yet, would that be so different than the way they hit on women?

whkattk said...

@ MFP - I've seen several versions - the worst being the latest, mainly because Russell Crowe could neither sing or act. He was so totally wrong for the part... But, that's my opinion... Bisou, mon cher!