Walking a Tightrope

 

Morning

"Had a meeting with my son's coach and he's got a bowl of condoms on the corner of his desk. Some parents are starting to grumble. What's your take?"

Oh, yeah, we've heard these stories, haven't we? The parents who think it's giving permission or promoting sex. And, "who's paying for them" is another big concern.

I think it's a bit like walking a tightrope. But here's the thing: Once they've become sexually active, are they going to stop? No. Just like when they start jacking off, they aren't going to stop just because someone tells them they shouldn't.

They may as well be safe. Safe from unwanted pregnancy and safe from STIs.

Maybe the coach should put that bowl in a file cabinet or desk drawer. Still accessible, but not "in your face" obvious that they're there and free for the taking.

What say you, Readers?

Slow the Process

 

Morning

"Me and my bud are both married but we get together once in a while in a hotel suite and spend the day chilling and bating. He stays hard for a long time after he shoots his load but mine goes soft right away. Why?"

Immediately, completely soft? Or, does it go down gradually?

Are your bate sessions later in the day or evening? If so, it could be testosterone levels, which become depleted over waking hours. But it isn't something to be overly concerned about.

Is there an age gap? The older we are, the faster the boner wilts and the longer it takes to recover for a second or third round.

Do you feel a sense of guilt over masturbating with a friend, perhaps like you're both cheating on your wives? Guilt can be a powerful thing - though jacking off shouldn't be considered "cheating;" even if it is with a buddy, it's still solo activity.

That said, the amount of time it takes to lose an erection after ejaculation will vary. And it will be different from guy to guy. Does he continue to stroke his cock and play with his balls after he cums? That could be what helps to keep him hard.

Continued stimulation after you cum should at least slow the process.

The daily email claiming sensitive content is getting tedious.

Is It Okay?

 

Morning.

"Ever wake up in the middle of the night with your dick really hard and you couldn't get back to sleep? That was me the other night. I finally went into the livingroom and rubbed one out. When I crawled back into bed, he was like you should've nudged me I would've helped with that. Does your other half think it's okay to wake them up for sex?"

Not in many, many years. But in my younger days? On so many occasions. It happened early in my current marriage but I didn't go anywhere; I took care of it right there in bed and she never woke up. A few days later we were visiting friends and the subject arose. Everyone agreed, "Absolutely, it's okay to wake a partner for sex."

That's the communication part of a relationship, though. Plus, I'd say you've got an advantage: Your other half is a man,

and if anyone can understand the need to tame a midnight boner it would (should) be a guy.

What are your thoughts, Readers?

Is it okay to wake a partner for sex?

Cumming In Condoms

 

Good morning.

"It's way too much too go into but my wife can't use womens birth control so we're stuck using rubbers. I don't mind using then but hate cuming in them. Any suggestios?"

Men have been wishing for a male contraceptive alternative to condoms or vasectomy (which can be reversed if need be) for decades. Beside the dampening sensation, ejaculating in a condom can feel strange because the force of the flow is dampened. Then the semen is forced backward down the shaft. 

You have options. Strip the condom off and stroke to finish.

If your wife doesn't like the sensation of you ejaculating on her, then don't. You have alternatives. A towel on her, a towel on the bed. Or, you do know how to aim that sucker, don't you?

Let her finish you off.

Rolling over to cum on yourself.

Or you suck it up and deal with it.

Readers, any other suggestions?