"My dad drove me to college in his classic car and we both got boners. He noticed me squirming in my seat. When he looked over and noticed the log in my pants he smiled and pointed to his own and said it happens to him all the time in that car on long drives. All of a sudden we're talking about girls and sex and boners and jerking off. He never talked like that before but said because he know I was doing it and he'd have worried if I didn't. I was embarrassed at first but the more he went on about his own experiences the easier it was for me. The real surprise was hearing that he still gets togther with a bunch of guys to jerk off. I thought it was TMI but he said he wanted me to know so jerking off in my dorm room might be easier if everyone is honest."
Your dad is right. Boners happen because of the vibration of the tires on the road transferring up through the seat. It's pretty normal as he proved. As for the rest of conversation? Maybe he figured you were old enough to hear that he's a normal guy and wanted to ensure you were well prepared for close-living conditions.
Speaking from experience, there won't be much privacy sharing a dorm room and nobody should have to be ashamed of anything.
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A great story!!!!! May as well be honest from the get go. Who knows...maybe he and his dormmate may end up jacking off together. I remember when I was young, and my friend and I were at his house. His father noticed we were hard. We were only just discovering jacking off. It was his father who pulled hos own out and showed us how to do it. We all jacked off and I think it was the earliest I remember cumming the first time. It was great to know with an older person that was ehat happened. Otherwise it may have scarred the shit out me. Now...im sure his father would have caught wholly hell if anyone else knew. Meanwhile my friend and I explored on each other with the whole nine yards.
Pat, you sure do get interesting letters!
Amazing! You are one lucky son to have a dad willing to be that honest and open with you. Congratulations!
Bravo to the dad. How great it would be if more men were open and honest that way.
I enjoyed your text as much as your illustrations.
Hugs and bisous my darlings Jean and Pat.
Enjoy a great weekend.
@ Rick - I do, but I'm happy to lend advice if I can.
@ Maddie - Your friend's dad sure was taking a risk giving you a demonstration but, if a picture is worth a thousand words, it served a good purpose in assuring you both knew there was nothing wrong with doing it --- and doing it together.
My dad never, never ever talked about sex. Mom said if I ever needed to know something her. Was not ever going to do that.
I love the dormmates/roommates jack-off sequence. HOT! I'm gonna post it on my own blog real soon. Happy Labor Day Weekend! Best wishes, Carl Miller Daniels (https://carlmillerdaniels.blogspot.com/)
I think parents have the hardest time taking the first step, my parents never told me anything, and I never asked. But if it were ever brought up, in a car ride like this, where you had an opportunity to just talk, I would have welcomed it. I actually have learned a lot here reading Pats blog every day. Many thanks for the adult education how many credits can we earn?
Hugs and bisous.
My college roommate and I jacked together quite a lot but always to his straight porn. I was more into watching him though! While I did not come out until later on in the year, I think he knew I was gay. But the straight porn made it less awkward for him.
It was never a conversation that I could have had with my dad. He was ultra conservative and did not really accept me being gay. He became a little more tolerant in later years.
Pat, you do get some great questions.
you was in the army too correct? So nudity is a common thing, you love naked
I have mentioned several times how cool my Dad was about jerking off. When I hit age 12 or so, Mom quit waking me up for school because my rod showed under the sheet. When she left, Dad and I walked around naked. He caught me pulling off, and finally told me to do it without shame because it was natural and normal. When I asked him if he did it, he crawled into bed beside me, and stroked a load out.I could talk to him about anything, and did. We talked about every sexual position from missionary to dog fucking to 69ing. I could touch his cock and we enjoyed exploring being male. I have never felt so complete or so completely loved since then. Lucky, lucky me.
Never did it with my dad, though he did assure me every guy did it, and that sometimes you needed to for sanity's sake.
@ Big Dude - I am so envious of your experience with your Dad. Mine never told me much at all about anything and expected I would find out "naturally" like he did. When I was a lad, I heard my parents having sex and I thought my Dad was abusing my Mom and she was crying out in pain: I had many mentally conflicted years before I discovered what was happening and I think I still have remnants of PTSD from that event. There was nothing particularly natural about my early development and it has had consequences. I didn't even see my Dad naked until I was in my mid-30's when he finally felt more comfortable about revealing who he was, but I think the damage had already been done through decades of neglect.
It is a tragedy in my opinion, that Dads are treated like pedophiles if they attempt to educate their sons about the realities of life using themselves as a model: a picture says a thousand words. In protecting them from "abuse" we are instead abusing their development by witholding educational benefits and an ability to identify with male reality.
I have mentioned before that boys are capable of having multiple orgasms through penile stimulation before they even have the ability to ejaculate and that doing so facilitates an ability to have similar multiple orgasms later in adulthood. Boys generally only find out about this by accident, so many never have this particular developmental stage and are thus deprived of a particular opportunity to experience their body's potential.
In conjunction with previous discussions about foreskins and hygiene and the reality that foreskins are initially fused to the glans penis but release naturally over time to allow the foreskin to be progressively retracted without discomfort or damage, but this release can happen over a wide range of years, it is not usually discussed whether a boys own careful encouraged experimentation with hygiene not only facilitates retraction but facilitates learning to have multiple orgasms before ejaculation.
It would be fantastic if Dads could educate their young sons about their anatomy, including how it will change in future, how it needs to be cared for and the enjoyable side effects of attending to hygiene, using themselves as future models for identity formation. Instead there is lack of knowledge, shame or even criminal chilling about Dads giving their sons valuable information about their own bodies and their care and potential even today and many boys never even accidentally discover what they have missed. It's no wonder the sins of the Fathers are passed onto the sons.
I think this also applies to circumcision, in that many men are completely unaware of what they have lost because they never had the opportunity to experience life fully intact and with the certain knowledge in how to use it, or in how to educate young intact sons.
When I think about the torture devices used to prevent even masturbation in the 1700s and 1800s, the attempt to rob men of pleasure seems to have been an ongoing thing, even up to today in not educating males about their potential and hoping only a few discover it by accident. It is appalling we are still doing things by trail and error, reinventing the wheel with each generation to this day.
Thank goodness for forums like this that can start to inform, even though it is too little too late for many.
@ Gabriel - my Dad was similar, telling me little about being male and expecting I would somehow find out myself but becoming more tolerant in later years. He told me he thought homosexuality was unnatural although he still loved me. That contradiction can play havoc with a sons mind who wants to please his Dad and be more like him but be true to himself.
I didn't have your college experience: I initially believed homosexuality was unnatural and I waited to discover women which never happened. Even masturbation felt shameful. Eventually I realised that homosexuality was not what it was made out to be and I began to accept my natural orientation. For some men though, detesting who you are but not feeling anything else for so long can seriously disrupt a normal expression of life for ongoing anxiety, depression and non-participation.
love the wisdom of that dad
Love those last gifs.
Well I can't relate, I'm 31 and never saw my dad naked.
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