No Reason for Shame

I swear I have the best Readers. So many great suggestions for Friday's post. The is idea to allow the wet dreams to happen, but find a way to save the bed linens. Placing a towel on the sheet brought the idea of a puppy piddle pad, which would keep the cum from soaking through to the sheet. No one but father and son needs to know.

The Dad does encourage his son to jack off, so he might tell his son to save his last session to just prior to sleep. He can clean up before drifting off. Yet, in any case, everyone agrees: Wet dreams are very normal for his age, and nothing to be ashamed of.

The post did, however, bring a new question:

"A buddy says we can get boners and cum during a nap. Is he right?"

He absolutely is. "Nocturnal" erections aren't specifically a nighttime thing. It's not when we sleep but how deeply we sleep.

A nap in the afternoon might find your cock as raging hard as it is upon waking from REM sleep in the morning.

Those boners can (and sometimes do) trigger sexual dreams, thus pulling the trigger on cumming.

 Bottom line: Wet dreams happen.

No reason for shame.

Dreamstate Stimulation

It's been an interesting back-and-forth with one Reader. I had to send his question to a friend of mine who has her Masters in sex. But, if any of you have any other thoughts on the subject they could be very helpful.

The basics: This man has a pubescent son who he's properly schooled on masturbation and supports it completely. It seems the problem is the "nocturnal emissions" numerous times each week, despite the two or three masturbatory ejaculations his son accomplishes during the course of every day. He doesn't understand how or why this keeps happening. Of course, the wet dreams stain the bed linens.

Can they be stopped? Should they be stopped?

My guess (and that of my friend) is the normal nighttime boner triggers a sexual dream which triggers the ejaculation. Wet dreams are pretty normal at the height of puberty. But that he jerks off regularly makes them somewhat of a surprise.

I'm not entirely convinced they should be stopped - though it wouldn't do any damage. But, is there a way to safely do that? My sex therapist friend suggests a topical anesthesia at bedtime. It would not stop the cock from getting hard but the effect would lower the sensitivity and, perhaps, help avoid the natural response to continue any dream state stimulation.

According to the Mayo Clinic, "Anesthetic creams and sprays that contain a numbing agent, such as benzocaine, lidocaine or prilocaine, are sometimes used to treat premature ejaculation. These products are applied to the penis 10 to 15 minutes before sex to reduce sensation and help delay ejaculation."

There are many brands out there using a variety of application, ranging from Roman Swipes ($17/8pack) to Climaxagen ($50/tube), KY Duration Spray ($20.49/can/bottle) to Skyn Endurance Spray ($14.97/bottle). The more economical Ejectdelay ($11) or ManDelay ($3) creams would probably do the trick. They're all readily available, either online or the local pharmacy.

The idea is for his son to apply a small amount to the head of his cock each night before going to bed to sleep. It seems to make sense, but

Any other suggestions?

Don't Ask-Don't Tell

"I've had the same therapist for a while at one of the national chain places. I always ask for a soothing and relaxing massage. Sometimes my dick gets a little hard but nothing obvious. This time I had an erection that I couldn't have hidden if I tried. When he moved to my thighs I opened my legs a bit. Same when he had me turn over and my balls dropped between them. The more his hands brushed against my balls the harder I got. No words were exchanged, but he stroked my dick. I don't think I ever came so hard in my life. I'm not complaining. It was the best massage I ever had, but aren't happy endings illegal. But, I also wonder if I gave him some kind of signal when I moved my legs? As far as I can remember it's the only thing different besides the really obvious boner."

Yes, the Happy Ending is illegal because it's considered a form of prostitution. But what we have here is a Don't Ask - Don't Tell situation. You didn't ask, he didn't tell you - for a fee - he'd get you off. (Though, I hope you left him a nice tip.)

He may have considered you opening your legs as a signal, though I doubt it. Then again, he may have determined that leaving you keyed-up with an erection was not the "soothing and relaxing" massage you request. After all, he wants to keep you as a client.

The chain places must be very, very careful about this or risk losing their license. I need a guy who knows about neuromuscular problems. Late last year, looking for a new therapist, my body was wracked with pain and I needed immediate attention and something close, and I booked the first one I came across. He happened to work out of his house. The small towel he draped over me slipped off when my cock started to get hard. He made no comment, I made no comment. He took great care with it. 

Don't go in expecting a hand job.

In other words, Don't Ask.

If it happens, Don't Tell.