In my post the other day, I wrote I had covered everything. Perhaps I wrote too soon.
"This might get confusing because we are trying to write this together. But my husband has been dealing with this problem for quite a few years now and we need some help in figuring out if there is anything he can do at all. (Before you start in on doctors you can save it. I've been to my primary who sent me to a urologist who told me there's nothing wrong. My T levels are higher than normal but not off the charts. He says he could give me medication to lower the levels but warned I would not be happy with the end result of weak boners) He gets constant erections. We have a very active sex life (We do) but it's never enough. We can have sex and three or four hours later he's developing an erection. (True) Just sitting and watching tv or movie he'll start squirming around and the log stretching down a leg is obvious. (The more I try to ignore my dick the harder it gets and finally get up and go to the bathroom to run one off) If we're expected somewhere or even just want to go out to eat he has to masturbate before we leave the house so he won't get an erection while we're out. Same if we're expecting company. (I do do that because I don't want everyone seeing me with a huge boner in my pants) My biggest issue with that is he always waits until the last minute and asks me to help him out. I have already done my makeup and really don't want to have to redo it. (I wait because in a few hours I'll have hard-on again. It's not like I'm asking her to suck my dick but a helping hand playing with my balls would go a long way to help me get off faster) He's been late to meetings at work because he's in the men's room masturbating. (While nobody has ever said anything I know the boners have been noticed so when they start I go and run one off) It's become a real problem to living a normal life. I love my husband but I can't accommodate every erection he gets. I hope you can help us because we're both at our wits end dealing with it. (It is a problem for me. I know the old joke about perpetual hard-ons but trust me it's not really much fun)"
"SSRIs work by changing the way serotonin, an important brain chemical, moves through your brain, so that more of it is available. SSRIs are usually prescribed for mental health disorders like depression, since serotonin plays a large role in your mood.
However, serotonin also works to lower sexual desire and keep your body from getting as physically aroused. For this reason, some physicians will prescribe SSRIs to help people reduce high sex drive."
I can only think of two things that could be causing this. First of all, men get multiple erections every day. Though, eventually, with age, we learn to ignore them and they dissipate fairly quickly. Obviously that is not your case.
I wonder if maybe your glans is extremely sensitive. The normal Blood Oxygen Erection (BOE) is a result of the interior tissues needing a fresh supply of oxygen and the cock gets semi-hard. Stimulation from the movement against the material of your briefs (or pants, if you go commando) increases the rigidity. The more you try to negotiate for comfort or to hide it, the harder it gets. You go pound one out. Hours later the next BOE begins and you're right back where you started.
If you still have a foreskin, pre-ejaculate will lubricate the glans more quickly because there is no material to soak it up. Then the foreskin moving against the head increases the stimulation. The extra stimulation increases the arousal. You jack off to get the boner to subside. The next BOE happens hours later, and your viscous cycle continues.
Combining those two things (material rubbing the shaft and the head sliding in precum) would be a double whammy. If you wear briefs, you might want to switch to ones designed specifically to accommodate boners.
You can also use a desensitizing cream after you shower in the morning, available in any corner pharmacy. That should reduce the sensitivity and lower the level of arousal with those BOEs.
Readers, any other ideas to help this guy stave off the boners?
7 comments:
Honestly. I found to have the same issue. And it’s depressing at times NOT to be able to tend to it. However, (due to other things in life) I went to my doctor and ask about antidepressants. The right one, the right dose, made all the difference. I can still get an erection (when needed) but they don’t just happen anymore. Hope this helps. Bupropion XL. And it does change your mindset and makes you less anxious but those unsolicited erections are at bay and can be called up when needed. Trust me they are HARD one too
This is new to me; so, I got nuthin'.
Just a wise-guy comment...
Your reader needs to cultivate a group of orally-fixated buddies who know of his issue and can be counted on to relieve his 'tension' whenever needed! (:
Would relaxation/meditation programs help prevent the erections?
In any case, as sexual prowess tends to decline with age, he may have to wait a few years. And he will still be the horniest guy in his age group!
--PaulMmn
I think doing some other things & being somewhere else might help - changing the environment & maybe being outdoors, in public etc, with some other people, doing some other stuff than usual & just changing the lifestyle. 🙂
A few issues. Physical and mental.
The wife's issues are the easier of the bunch. Get a toy. Fleshlight, Tenga or whatever you can afford. Get your husband to use the toy. The husband; your wife is not a device to make you cum.
Stuff for the husband. Dont rely on one doctor especially if your still having the same problem! Something to take from cosmetic doctors is always get a second opinion. Whenever patients opt for surgery they are always told get a second opinion from another doctor in that field. No issue in applying it to a Urologist. Maybe see a psychologist that specializes in sex health as there might be something happening on a psychological level. Your GP (normal doctor) should be for your overall health. Something specific your going to need to see someone other than your GP and when it comes to specialists they are not all trained the same.
Something left field for the husband; when you go toilet and crap do you struggle towards the end (the feeling of a poo still in there but it hasnt come out)? A rogue turd can wreak havoc on your prostate (causing constant erections). We not talking a full log here but a breakaway piece. Little nugget is all it will take. The anal cavity will automatically push down whatever is in there but the nugget might not be large enough or too soft to breach.
How is the poo? Is it solid logs or a bag of Maltesers? If its the later there may still be crap in your ass and its putting pressure on your prostate giving you constant erections.
Since diet, exercise, etc. can help those with ED, conversely has he reviewed his diet, medications, supplements, etc. for any that could be contributing to the issue?
Why is this a problem? He should realize that his wife doesn't always want to help him get off... so? Accept it and take care of business. Are there other issues not being raised here? Because I'm not seeing the problem. He needs to plan better and be more responsible because he knows the issue... ummm... first hand. So if there are problems they are ones he's creating because he's being lazy and irresponsible. Enjoy your boners. But don't be boneheaded. Kizzes.
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