Not Feeling the Explosion

Good morning.

"My wife and I fuck at least 2 times a week but recently I have been cumming and not really feeling the explosion and sometimes I’m not even sure I’ve cum. Strange but later I actually know I’ve cum. Any ideas why?"

Well, that sucks. Ejaculation is supposed to feel pleasurable. The explosive nature of it adds to our sense of sexual release.

Weak ejaculation symptoms include:

Reduced ejaculation volume. You may notice that you don't ejaculate as much as you used to. 

• Reduced force of ejaculation. In addition to ejaculating less semen, you may feel like your semen isn't expelled with as much force as usual.
• Difficulty ejaculating.

According to the Cleveland Clinic:

It's fairly common and rarely cause for concern, but if consistent should be evaluated by a physician.

Anorgasmia, or a weak ejaculation --- sometimes called inhibited ejaculation --- is a common issue that can be caused by a number of different things: age, lifestyle, medications, or underlying medical problems; recent surgeries near or around the genitals, complications from cancer treatment like radiation.  

Medications for Benign Prostate Hyperplasia (BPH), an enlarged (noncancerous) prostate can also be a cause of a weakened sense of explosive ejaculation.

What can you do about it? First, if this is persistent, go for a complete physical. Make sure there are no underlying conditions.

In the meantime, do you can do Kegels to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that help you ejaculate. Lower volume means that less fluid is being forced out. If the first spurt is weak, the remainder seem to diminish sooner.

Also remember that sexual tension can be wound up like a spring. the more build-up to the orgasm the better it feels to cum.

So, you might also try spending more time on foreplay.

Firm Erections

 

Good morning.

I've talked about the need for men to do Kegel exercises for many years, and described them in very basic terms. Though they will help men recover from prostate surgery and / or assist in issues with bladder leakage, my focus was always on maintaining firm erections.

And let's be honest, that's the thing we're most interested in, isn't it? At least until we face urinary issues.

Today, fellow blogger Sixpence has posted a YouTube video by Dr. Erick Leckie, a Doctor of Physical Therapy, that shows you precisely how to do them, how to know you're doing them correctly, and the absolute benefits of continuing them as a part of a regular routine.

I urge you to visit Six's blog post

Oh, Kegels 

and watch that video.

All the way to the end.

Need enticement? Not only will they boost your boners.

Your boners will reward you with stronger ejaculations.

And we all know the stronger the ejaculation, the better it feels.

Is that reason enough to watch, learn, and do?

Strong Shooter

 

"I used to be a really strong shooter but since me and my girlfrind broke up and I'm back to jerking its not nearly as strong as before. I still get super hard when I cum. Wtf is going on? At 34 I should still have strong ones shouldn't I?"

Of course, the older we get function diminishes. But at your age? No. You should still have good velocity. I don't think it has much --- if anything --- to do with not having a partner.

But it does have something to do with arousal. It could be that you're rushing through. You know, the old "my balls ache and I just want to get off."

Take more time with your masturbation, work up to the explosion. As we all know the more we cum and the harder we cum the more satisfactory. Taking your time to get there will help you achieve that.

The other thing I'm going to suggest is daily Kegel exercises.

Those can be done with or without a boner.

 That will strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which contract during orgasm, to add velocity to each spurt.

Men typically don't notice those contractions when jacking off because they have a hand wrapped around and stroking the shaft when they cum.

Complete and Satisfactory Orgasm

 

"The last week or so has been awful.  I been shooting a load at least three times a day but its not satisfying at all and it still feels like my balls are going to explode. Is there anything I can do to about a constant urge to cum?"

I can relate. And I can certainly sympathize. I think most guys could.

Just like women, men's hormones fluctuate. We all have those periods of extremely high libido once in a while, usually due to a surge of testosterone. The boners are super hard, and it can seem like nothing we do takes care of them. The hard-on will subside only to pop back up again, nagging us, until we whip it into a frenzy in an attempt to beat it down as fast as possible.

The problem with doing that is the intensity of the orgasm is missing. One thing that may help is to slow down. Use lube, if you aren't already.

Lacking a partner, if you have a masturbation sleeve, or a FlashJack, use it in a manner to mimic penetrative intercourse by thrusting into it.

At the very least, thrust through your hand.

That might help increase the sense of more natural sexual movement leading to a more complete and satisfactory orgasm.

Readers, any other ideas that worked for you, that might help this young man?