Okay to Get Laid?

 

"When our son hit puberty waking him fell to me because my wife didn't want to embarrass him due to his morning wood. But I really started his education when I realized he was masturbating. At one point I got him a fleshjack so he could lean how to control his ejaculations and started supplying him with condoms  to get him into the habit of using protection. He made the mistake of leaving a box of condoms on his nightstand and his mom saw them. I fessed up about giving them to him but now she's accusing me of encouraging him to have sex. Thank goodness she doesn't know about the fleshjack. But is it telling him it's okay to get laid?"

First off, congratulations on being open and frank with your son about erections, masturbation and using protection. I wouldn't consider supplying condoms as an endorsement for sexual activity --- if you made it clear as to why you started supplying them. And made it clear it's not a green light for sex.

In my opinion, making sure he understands how important it is to use contraception until he's mature enough, and financially responsible enough, to be raising a child is the right thing to do. If he gets into the habit now, it will be second nature when he does start hooking up for sex. And you know that at some point he will. So does your wife.

But using condoms is also practicing safe sex in order to avoid STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) such as HIV/AIDS.

But you also need to remember that women have a tougher time accepting that their male children are growing up and becoming aware of their developing bodies, and the sexual energy that comes along with the territory. They have an easier time with daughters because they must teach them how to deal with menstruation.

So, have a sit-down with your wife and calm her fears. Let her know you're on top of it.

While much has been accomplished since the 80's crisis and the disease can now be managed, and there are medications to assist in avoiding contracting it, it is not gone.

I urge you to make a donation to help find a vaccine, to help find a cure.

Complete and Satisfactory Orgasm

 

"The last week or so has been awful.  I been shooting a load at least three times a day but its not satisfying at all and it still feels like my balls are going to explode. Is there anything I can do to about a constant urge to cum?"

I can relate. And I can certainly sympathize. I think most guys could.

Just like women, men's hormones fluctuate. We all have those periods of extremely high libido once in a while, usually due to a surge of testosterone. The boners are super hard, and it can seem like nothing we do takes care of them. The hard-on will subside only to pop back up again, nagging us, until we whip it into a frenzy in an attempt to beat it down as fast as possible.

The problem with doing that is the intensity of the orgasm is missing. One thing that may help is to slow down. Use lube, if you aren't already.

Lacking a partner, if you have a masturbation sleeve, or a FlashJack, use it in a manner to mimic penetrative intercourse by thrusting into it.

At the very least, thrust through your hand.

That might help increase the sense of more natural sexual movement leading to a more complete and satisfactory orgasm.

Readers, any other ideas that worked for you, that might help this young man?

Stem Cells for ED

 

We finally get to the third item that Joost sent about the IgNobel Prizes. "They always have very funny but scientifically serious topics."

Losing the ability to have sex due to the lack of a willing partner can be overcome with hands or a sleeve, like the FleshJack.

But losing the ability to find release even in that manner can be devastating. It can drive some men into very deep depression. 

That is why so many researchers work at solving the problem. From way back in the days of vacuum pumps and cock rings to today's Viagra and Cialis.

It has led to a Dutch study that found help for Erectile Dysfunction (ED) using stem cell therapy. As reported at DW:

"Erectile dysfunction affects nearly half of all men between 40 and 70 years of age. Other impotence treatments like Viagra can come with serious side-effects, and while getting an injection into the penis likely wasn't fun for the trial participants, none of them reported significant issues. Haahr's team used stem cells taken from abdominal fat cells via liposuction and injected them into the penises of 21 trial participants. The men were able to be discharged from the clinic on the day of the procedure. Within six months of the initial treatment, eight of the men reported they had regained the ability to participate in penetrative sexual activity without using drugs like Viagra. Function has been retained at twelve months follow up."

There's a video (also on the DW site) in which Urologist Dr. Tobias Pottek explains when men should see their doctor, the possible causes of ED, and how it can be treated.

I thank Joost for bringing these prizes that can help men to my attention for posting. And men should thank the IgNobel committee for bringing this to light.

Masturbation Month - May 4

Like most everyone, I'm disgusted by the Alito draft opinion that would see Roe v Wade and Casey v Planned Parenthood overturned. Yes, I know it's not final.

Does anyone think it will change before the final? I don't.

An MSN contributor interviewed a Pro-Life protestor and asked what they would do if the SCOTUS does overturn abortion rights. The answer: Go after gay marriage until that gets overturned.
Some people think Congress should codify Roe with legislation. Sure. But remember this: SCOTUS cases can be overturned (obviously) and legislation can be repealed as soon as the Republicans take over.

The thing to remember is that masturbation is good for you physically because it helps to lower your blood pressure and relieves tension.