Here's the scene: You're on a trip to a business conference; the city is full, full, full. Your hotel reservations get screwed up. Just when you're coming to terms with sleeping in your rental car, a guy offers to share his room. It's a single King. You weigh the options - sharing a hotel room with someone you don't know vs looking like crap after trying to "freshen up" in the men's room after a night of sleeping in the parking lot. You decide to tamp down your fears - "What's the worst that can happen?"
The first three nights are uneventful.
Mornings are standard. You've slept in the same bed, you've seen each other naked doing the whole morning thing.
You're beginning to think this guy is decent, someone you could hang out with if you lived in the same town.
Night four, you're wakened by soft moans.
You turn to see a geyser of cum flying.
You jump up thinking, "WTF?" You stand there, rather stunned.
Then he rolls over, snoring, and you realize he's been sound asleep.
In the morning, he remains in bed.
You shower and shave.
On your way out the door you tell him you hope he feels better and you'll see him downstairs. But he says he's going to leave. You suspect he knows that you know. What do you do? Do you let him leave thinking you find him abhorrent, or do you assuage his guilt?
What do you say to him?
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I haven't a clue.
If he's been sound asleep, how can he knows that you know. I even doubt that he knew what happened. How can we assuage his guilt if he was not even conscious of masturbating?
I knew a young man who under more or less comparable circumstances sucked a friend's cock while he was asleep, and this friend seemed not to have noticed anything. This young man wondered if he was guilty of rape and he was remorseful. I advised him to say nothing, to confess only if the other speak of it to him first. Ten years later they are still great friends.
Hugs and bisous, my dear friends Jean and Pat. Have a great weekend to end well March.
First off...If I heard that noise, I would have gotten hard and probably jacked off myself. Second, I would say look, I know what you did, saw what came out and don't worry about it...we all do it. Stay here in the room. Then third, the next night, I'd ask if he wanted blown!
Have a good weekend Pat!!!
Here’s my comment:
Wish you weren’t leaving. Seems like we got along great. We could enjoy each other’s company.
@ MFP - Let's say he knew he'd ejaculated by the dried semen that was everywhere; he was embarrassed and simply assumed the worst.
I like Imnutzinfl's comment: "Wish you weren't leaving..." in hopes of a joint session. Seems like this would alleviate any awkwardness or guilt and open the door for other possibilities if both men are interested.
I tell him that I wish he wouldn't leave and that we are getting along really well and was hoping to spend more quality time together since we might not meet again in the near future. If he's still in the bed covered with his dried jizz, I would come over there, sit down next to him and pull the covers back and rub my hands over all that dried goo. I would ask him again to please please stay and that I will see him in the late afternoon. If he declines, I would move in to make a move, maybe kiss him and offer a great goodbye.
I would have tried to assuage his guilt. Would have said something along the lines of "it's ok man, nothing to be ashamed of. We're guys. That's what we do."
@ whkattk
The worst? LOL, I know tons of things which are worst than that.
Beyond the words, he could also have think that he has had a wet dream. Or that his bedmate had abused of him by stroking his cock while he was sleeping. Or... Or...
Bisous (while you are sleeping, obviously)
@Patrick: Huge difference, though. If I'm having a wet dream, that means I've failed to take time to take care of things. In a sane world, guys wouldn't be embarrassed by normal male bodily functions. In a saner world, guys would understand the need and not pretend otherwise. In a really sane world, guys wouldn't mind doing it together, at least with the right person.
Sucking a dick while the dude's asleep is a whole other level, though. For one, it's conscious. For another, a lot of guys, myself included, when we didn't actually give consent or couldn't reasonably do so, such as being asleep, our minds basically retcon the whole affair: "I enjoyed it, therefore not rape." In advanced cases, a man might consent to any sexual activity just so he can't be raped. (I jokingly call this Grayson syndrome. If you know anything about the character from the comics, you know why.)
This sort of thing happened with my dad and me while we were watching tv. He fell asleep in his briefs and soon after put his hand down his pants. No biggie. But then his hand started going so I went to bed. Didn't realize guys jacked off in their sleep.
To the guy in question, guess if we were comfortable enough to be sleeping naked in the same bed, I'd be like, "dude, we do crazy things when we're asleep. If you're going cuz of that, don't worry about it."
I think I would say that I enjoyed getting to know him and am sorry that he is leaving. I would also make sure that he had my contact information to stay in touch. If I am volunteering all of that, I don't think he would feel that I was bothered by anything that happened (if he was aware of it).
Hey man, I'm really sorry you feel like going. This has been a great arrangement, and I feel comfortable sharing the room with you. At first I was a little apprehensive, but the more time we've spent together the more at ease I'm becoming.
Hell, I remember back when I was in college how awkward it felt to share a room with a complete stranger when I first moved into the dorms. It didn't take long for that feeling to fade either. In fact, when my dormmate broke up with his girlfriend, and after a few weeks when the pressure in his balls was reaching volcanic levels, we even had a good wank together to relieve the strain.
Anyway, I hope you'll reconsider. If there's anything I can do to help to reduce your discomfort, just let me know. It's the least I can do for you being so cool and helping me out with a place to stay.
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