Kinks can be fun, but they can also be dangerous.
"How do I approach my son about this? He's almost 18, but I still worry that he's dipping into dangerous scene. I heard a loud crash come from his room and ran into make sure he was okay. I found him with a belt around his neck and the closet rod. The rod broke thank God. He was under a pile of clothes, unconscious. I dug him out and discovered him fully naked and his dick was still hard but there was semen splattered everything. I'm rrally worried about this because I know about Bob Crane and that other actor. I don't know how to handle this discussion and really don't know how to explain this to his mother."
Erotic asphyxiation causes a lack of oxygen. The body's instinct is to protect the organs, so it sends an extra supply of blood - making the penis harder. A harder erection is what guys are after because that in turn creates more sensitivity, which in turn heightens the experience of ejaculation.
No one should ever attempt to do this without a "partner-spotter." Someone who will keep watch and intervene at the first sign of trouble.
You need to have a man-to-man talk with your son. I'm sure he's quite embarrassed to have been discovered in that situation, so you need to make sure you don't make him feel worse than he already does. But you do need to explain the dangers of what he's attempting to do without someone there.
Don't judge the activity. Don't judge him. There are so many kinks out there; discovering that your son is into one shouldn't be a surprise to you. Now is the time to blend dadship with friendship.
Being a man, tell him you understand his desire to enhance the pleasure of masturbation. Then you must convince him that - if he's going to continue this - he needs to find someone who will be there to watch over him.
That person can be as active in the situation (mutual jacking, etc) as they might agree but, if they forge forward into the erotic-asphyxiation,
one must always remain level-headed, fully aware, and ready to help should unconsciousness happen.
I'm not sure how you handle discussing this with your wife. Any moms out there who can give us pointers on how to explain to this kid's mother?
Readers, anything you can add?
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This is a really tough one!
As with anything kink or s&m one always should consider safety first and have a partner present to enjoy it. Otherwise that will be the first and only time they enjoy their kink. He's damn lucky that rod broke probably.
David Caradine (Kung Fu, Kill Bill) was the other actor who died during erotic asphyxiation.
I like the buddy approach, but the older I get the more concerned I would be about stroking out during the process.
This is serious and scary stuff. The husband needs to start the conversation with his wife. They both need to make sure they are educated and know exactly what this is all about. Surely the mother will want to know everything. This may be something she is not familiar with at all.
I’m not sure who they should be talking to but they need somebody who understands all the bad things that can go wrong. Does this fall under counseling or something that can be discussed with her son’s doctor if he has one?
Brain damage, stroke, death. Not for amateurs they need some professional help. Hugs and bisous.
Start by solving this problem with your son. I hope he is able to understand that this was a complete and utter bullshit, that no ejaculation is worth taking the risk of dying, which incidentally will not give him the eternity to savor the expected pleasure. If necessary, make an appointment with a psychiatrist and accompany him to his consultation at the doctor. When the problem is solved and he understands how crazy this behavior was, it will be easier to inform your wife.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat. Have a great weekend
An awkward event for parent and son, for sure. Keep in mind that it may not be a full-blown kink, but could be a one-time experiment. The safety issue is key. Don't assume he's "into this", but at the same time, don't shame him into saying he'll never do it again. I guess the advice is to address what happened, express concern about safety, offer openness for future conversations, and let it go (for now).
I remember you wrote about auto erotic asphyxiation before. I told you about a buddy of mine who died this way.
So for everyone, if you're going to do this please have someone with you. It's too dangerous to do yourself. As French Patrick said, no ejaculation is worth dying for.
he must speak with his son and stop.
is Kink so necessary to improve pleasure? I think not!
@ Tex
My condolences for your buddy. In fact it's not about only one ejaculation, as by dying he would have deprived himself of all those that he would have enjoyed days after days. I knew a teenager who committed suicide by jumping off a bridge over a highway. I do not think there are wonderful suicides and other horrible suicides. I hope the boy who is the subject of this article from BWA was not suicidal. Or that he is no longer suicidal.
Best regards.
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