Friday, September 27, 2019

Thoughts on Friendship

Thank you so much for the well-wishes. I feel a bit better today. Not 100%, but better. Friendships can do that.
A reader asked me to dedicate a post entirely to BuddyBate. (I will.) Then I popped over to AOM to read his post, which beautifully expresses the importance and joy of friendship. I commented on AOM's post:

Whether it is being naked playing a game, chilling out in quiet reflection, romping around in fun, or jerking off together, the friendship - open and honest friendship - between men is a treasure beyond riches of gold or gems. I wish we had more of that in the world around us. 



That expresses what I have always looked for in a friendship; nudity not required. Yet, some genuine friendships formed during naked times. It is so much easier to bare your soul when you've bared your body.

It all goes right along with an email from another reader.

"This guy and me have been best friends since high school. He recently came over and said how much he missed those days and asked if we might go back to being like that. Bottom line, we got naked, we stroked together but he went further and sucked my dick. It was something we'd never done back then. He kept pushing my face into his and I just couldn't do it. At the end of the night everything seemed normal and fine. Two weeks have gone by and he hasn't answered or returned my calls. What is his problem and how do I fix it?"


I can't know what's in your friend's head. Maybe he's angry you didn't reciprocate, maybe he's feeling guilty about things, maybe he's feeling weird about his own budding fluidity (you didn't say, I'm assuming he's always thought of himself as straight).
Forget the calls. Go see him. Take him out for a drink. Talk. Let him know that whatever it is that has kept him silent is okay - you miss your friend and you're there for him no matter the circumstances.
What are your thoughts on friendship?

6 comments:

SickoRicko said...

It's like you said: friendship means more than gold.

Your French Patrick said...

A friend'sship is better than the ship of an enemy.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat. Have a great weekend.

Mistress Maddie said...

I have friendships on all levels and I get something out of all of them. Whether it company, advice , good times, going out, jerking off, or Feb. Their all important.

Sounds like said guys friend is questioning his sexuality and may be embarrassed. I say go see him, have a drink then offer to suck his dick.

Have a good weekend all!

Xersex said...

try to explain to him it can happen some sex among friends. It's not bad.

JeanWM said...

Lots of things can affect friendship, just look at our political mess as a start. Good friendships require a big investment. But the return on that investment is great. Hugs and bisous.

Anonymous said...

Sounds like someone wasn't into oral. Sometimes it seems there is a high expectation that everyone do oral. If you really don't know the person, there are STD risks.

Concerning m2m friendships. I loved it when I had a good friend, and felt like we had so much in common etc... However we were long distance apart, so it wasn't long and we kind of grew apart. I think he wanted things to move along at a certain pace, and my life and personal pace didn't align with his. I guess that's where deep down we had some differences. He always seemed very calculated and planned wanting certain action or responses from me. I often felt like he was somewhat controlling wanting me to do things his way. This was never direct or out in the open, but rather a general sense I had and little things he would say. I guess the moral of the story is YES M2M friendships are wonderful, and some probably better than others. I miss having a close bud, but now I'm at an age where I encounter people of all ages and don't really have any close buddies. Most guys my age are married with children.