Nothing Is Foolproof

 

Masturbation has been around for ever. So has mutual masturbation. The idea of mutual got a great promotional boost during the 80s HIV/AIDS crisis. And again when COVID hit. It's considered the safest sex one can engage in.

BUT

There's always a "but."

Gabrielle Kassel, New York based sex and fitness writer, who often pens the articles in Healthline that I read, in this latest report, spells out a few caveats when it comes to jacking off - even without a buddy or partner along for the fun.

First she explains the difference between a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) and Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD): "STIs are sexually transmitted infections. STDs are sexually transmitted diseases. An STI is only considered a disease when it causes symptoms."

Well, that explains why STD suddenly became STI in many, many articles.

Everyone knows how these things get shared from person to person. Even during mutual masturbation when things get hot and heavy, precum is flowing or cum is flying. As Lisa Finn, sex educator at Babeland, tells our intrepid reporter, “If you’re in close enough proximity that body fluid can be exchanged, if someone has an STI, an STI can be transmitted.”

But did you know you could transmit an infection to yourself? Who knew?

Finn explains "if you use spit as lube" (pretty popular among guys too embarrassed to have a bottle of lube in the house), and then anally finger yourself (getting more and more popular with men as they've discovered the value of the prostate) you can transmit an infection from one area to another.

Bottom line: Jacking off, alone or with a partner or a group is the safest sex there is.

But, as usual, nothing is foolproof. 

On the Rise

I read a very small article this week and thought today would be a good time to post about it. Weekends are typically when folks go out on the hunt to get laid. Not surprising. What is surprising is that they - obviously - are not being careful; not being safe.

Condoms burst into national consciousness back in the 80's AIDS crisis. That overwhelming spread of a then-unknown STI, or STD, also brought about the push for mutual masturbation as a means of sexual release.

But, recent reports show a frightening continued rise in the spread of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. Folks, this is not good. Yes, unlike HIV, there are cures for these. And, yes, there are drugs which can keep HIV at undetectable levels.

However, if you aren't following safe sex practices, you can unknowingly contract any STD and then infect another person.

The BWA slogan "Keeping the man parts healthy" includes safe sex. Mutual masturbation can be just as pleasurable, just as satisfying as penetrative activity. Using a condom may cut down on a man's sensitivity a little bit, but that lack of sensation will not be so great as to stop ejaculation.

Stay safe this weekend. If you are not in a monogamous relationship, if you find a random hook-up, if you plan on "dipping your wick," use condoms. Otherwise, hands can be just as stimulating,

just as pleasurable,

just as satisfying and the release as complete.

Have a fun, safe weekend.

11 Million Men

Our cocks can get us into trouble.... Some startling new numbers are emerging in the HPV-related cancers. Approximately 3 million women have now been diagnosed with cervical cancers linked to HPV.

And - here's the kicker: 11 million men have been diagnosed with neck, mouth, and throat cancers which have been also been linked to the virus.

This is a virus which can linger, without symptoms for decades. It can be transferred by kissing. It can be shared through oral sex.

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It's believed that cases showing up now are due to the rise in oral sex during the 80s and 90s. As I've written before (Whip It Out), rinsing the mouth with Listerine - the mouthwash that kills 99.9% of bacteria - immediately after can help.

Photo Credit - The Lady Looks Up

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But, this can be avoided for the generation now coming to maturity. For a number of years now, Gardisil has been recommended for girls. In the last two or three years, there has been a push for boys to be vaccinated as well. These latest numbers prove the need for it. Folks, if you have sons - get them vaccinated.

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'Cause it doesn't matter if your sons are deep kissing, eating pussy, or sucking cock,

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the HPV virus can get them.

The Safest Sex

A three-page spread in our newspaper yesterday about the resurgence in the spread of Syphilis. This is an especially insidious disease.

"Syphilis is a highly contagious disease spread primarily by sexual activity, including oral and anal sex. It develops in stages, and symptoms vary with each stage.

The first stage involves a painless sore on the genitals, rectum, or mouth. After the initial sore heals, the second stage is characterized by a rash. Then, there are no symptoms until the final stage which may occur years later. This final stage can result in damage to the brain, nerves, eyes, or heart." [text bolding is mine]

Knowledge of this, and other STIs, has never been a deterrent; people are people and complete abstinence is rare. And, it would appear the Free Love generation is at it again - rates of this (and other STIs) are rampant among those 55+. Sites out there have been designed especially for them, including chat rooms like Granny Chat and Granny Cam for a safer alternative.

Because - whether you use porn or your own imagination to fantasize - masturbation is still the safest sex there is. Alone,

or with others.

That said, have a really wonderful weekend, and welcome to September.